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I Am Flooded With Memories, Memories, Memories

My dad build our house 50 years ago. My mom died here my sister died here and recently my dad has died here. I still live here. Its a big house, things are falling apart. I can't possibly keep up with fixing and taking care of it. I'm already struggling to pay the bills. I am afraid to move, but I think its inevitable. How do I just leave all the objects and memories that have accumulated.? I'm having a really hard time with this.

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Heartlander · 80-89, M

I understand. It's like everything there is a part of history, your history. Everything has meaning and feelings, like it's a part of you. We've been through that so many times as our parents and the older generation all died off.

But what worked for them may not work for you, or me.

Our daughter helped us move beyond with her old toys, made by hand by my dad, her grandfather. After our daughter grew up, married and moved away, the toys just sat in our basement for the next 20 years. A personal connection to her granddad.

When we suggested that we bring them to her house she suggested we instead give them to kids that would actually play with them rather than just let them sit in either her basement or our basement. Yes, they were extra special toys. Works of art made by a master craftsman, but they were still toys that were to be played with, and neither she nor we had played with them for 20+20 years. So we were just wasting them.