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I Hate How Women Are Seen In Society

Normally I don't get to fired up about society, but today I got mad and I got fired up.

Today I had to dress up for something so I wore a little black dress that I own. I will admit that yes this dress was a little on the shorter side and yes the cut on the neck was a little lower and yes the dress was form fitting. All this said the dress was not by any means immodest. Anyways I wore this dress out and today I got a ton of comments on how pretty I looked and at least 5 people told me I looked hot and a couple times I was told I looked sexy. I said thank you and moved on, but after a bit I started thinking. These people even if we don't talk everyday I see them every single day and never once have they said these things to me, but today when I where a dress that shoes off my body even the slightest I'm flocked with people. MY BODY SHOULD NOT BE THE REASON PEOPLE SAY THESE THINGS TO ME! I don't mind it when people say these things except for the fact that it only gets said when I show a little. This is never okay. Women shouldn't be treated like this.

Okay rant over.

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rfhh1959 · 61-69, M

When one dress better than their normal or the norm of their group (or office) comments will be made. Some of the remarks you refer to are inappropriate in today work place. A more appropriate remark would have been that is a nice dress or that dress looks nice on you

They thought they were being complementary

EmmelineVivinne · 26-30, F

I get that, but it still annoys me and makes it seem like to get a compliment a women has to wear something that reveals something.

rfhh1959 · 61-69, M

@EmmelineVivinne Over my career I have found more people are afraid to say anything since the standard for sexual harassment like beauty is in the eyes of the beholder.

The typical comment I hear and say is hey are you interviewing. It acknowledges you are dress better than normal and it is non sexual

EmmelineVivinne · 26-30, F

And that's the problem with society today. When did complementing a girl become sexual harassment?

rfhh1959 · 61-69, M

@EmmelineVivinne IN my opinion when a stupid guy did not know no = no and fancied themselves Don Drapper

wunderluv · 51-55, M

@EmmelineVivinne I think that the comments flow from the natural draw that we have when we see beauty. I think it should be expressed when it is expressed in a tactful way and then the person should move on so an not to make the compliment awkward. These days these interactions are played out very gracefully or as appropriately as should because of the rise of and dependance on texting and so-called "social media" forms of communications.
I hope that this bigger picture perspective can help you to understand the situation tgat you describe in a broader way, not that your take on it is wrong, I just thought I should add this context simply to add to thd discussion here even tbough I understand that I came to it a few years later. Lol

EmmelineVivinne · 26-30, F

@wunderluv Looking back on this it was definitely an overreaction on my part.
Though I still had some valid points and I think your argument brings to light those points, I got compliments on my beauty when I “showed off” my body, what I was trying to articulate was that it was not so much the comments that bothered me but rather the fact that they were directed towards my body. Does that makes sense? My beauty is a lot more than my body, though I will admit I do have (or I guess I should say had baby kind of screwed things up) a “good body”. I still feel like compliments about beauty are about more than the body and the outfit.

wunderluv · 51-55, M

@EmmelineVivinne I agree in my following reply in tbis thread I talk more about crude and improper comments. I should probably have put a line or two about other ways that women are beautiful but then this post was about in school interactions and so I didn't tbink that needed to be brought in to my exposition of my points of view; that and I didn't want to bombard your thread with a TLDR aka a book on the subject of intuitive human interaction which, of course MOST people not all sadly intuitively understand. Anyway, I probably should leave this topic here because I'm at risk of writing the book that nobody signed up for! Lol