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I Hate How Women Are Seen In Society

Normally I don't get to fired up about society, but today I got mad and I got fired up.

Today I had to dress up for something so I wore a little black dress that I own. I will admit that yes this dress was a little on the shorter side and yes the cut on the neck was a little lower and yes the dress was form fitting. All this said the dress was not by any means immodest. Anyways I wore this dress out and today I got a ton of comments on how pretty I looked and at least 5 people told me I looked hot and a couple times I was told I looked sexy. I said thank you and moved on, but after a bit I started thinking. These people even if we don't talk everyday I see them every single day and never once have they said these things to me, but today when I where a dress that shoes off my body even the slightest I'm flocked with people. MY BODY SHOULD NOT BE THE REASON PEOPLE SAY THESE THINGS TO ME! I don't mind it when people say these things except for the fact that it only gets said when I show a little. This is never okay. Women shouldn't be treated like this.

Okay rant over.

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ravenwind43 · 51-55, F

Enjoy the comments while you're young. You won't get them forever:)

EmmelineVivinne · 26-30, F

I get that and I do, but it still ticks me off that I don't get them when I dress normal. (jeans and nice shirt)

ravenwind43 · 51-55, F

@EmmelineVivinne I see your point but like someone else said, people tend to notice more when someone is dressed differently from their norm...so they feel they should comment.:)

EmmelineVivinne · 26-30, F

I know, but it still ticks me off

wunderluv · 51-55, M

@EmmelineVivinne I think that people are want to just simply note(comment on) and appreciate your above and beyond YOUR normal efforts to dress up nice.
For example, when I dress normally I get no recognition for it nor would I expect any, it's a normal ordinary day; but when I get all dressed up and I'm perfectly shaved and smelling awesome people notice it and compliment me too BECAUSE of my extra ordinary effort to look good.. people naturally that yiu made the effort to "dress to impress" and so some of them naturally would respond to that effort by way of a compliment - a simple acknowledgement of your effort. In ALMOST every case you will find that the compliments will be entirely innocent even if not very socially graceful with no sinister motivation.
I would never encourage any woman or man to put put up with any crass or untoward comments, but that said I also think that perceiving an injustice where there isn't one doesn't help yours or anyone's social bonds because being unnecessarily critical of others in an angry way especially openly is ungracious and puts a chill on normal social interaction (human nature).
I've had interactions with people (women) who knocked back my entirely normal compliments and in the end the result is that it leaves a bad social interaction and a woman who at at the least would be viewed as cold or ungracious or a diva so.
Now again I am not in any way defending any person who would make any rude or improper remarks. Those guys (or girls) would typically get at least a mild to very stern talking to from me