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I Love My Mum But She Drives Me Crazy

And again she wants to control everything i do.. Even if i keep doing what she wants me to do.. Is this ever going to end? Lol, probably not.
According to her, i'm not doing a good job of being an almost-26 year old with no job or no marriage looming around! xD So i 'should' study harder, wake up earlier, go for running, lose some weight!
I asked her why, so she told me..so that i would get another degree, good job and a prospective guy. Lol.
So i asked her why would i need all that? What for?
She tells me, so that i have a good home, so that i'm happy, so that i don't end up alone.
And i asked...why do all that, when i already have a good home, and i'm happy being alone! That's like searching and ending up in the same place! Lol. I'm just plain lazy for all that!
She tells me that by doing all that studying, getting a degree or a job and marrying someone is supposed to make me happy...but what if i'm already happy being who i am?! xD
And she had no answers!
I know she meant good for me. And over the past year, i've come to love her and accept her the way she is. Her controlling nature doesn't drive me that crazy anymore..except just sometimes. Why should losing some weight or getting fit or marrying someone matter more than the inner happiness and peace? I wish she could understand that i'm not the same anymore, but she never looks past how i look or how i'm behaving. And it just makes me sad.
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thoughtbubble
Like you say, she means well, she's looking out for your good. It so happens, the three things she mentions, might, after all be good for you in the long run. You say you are already happy, but she thinks about where you __will be__ happy , say a few years later. Job & Study : Will provide you financial independence, marriage or not. Reducing weight : boring, but has a direct correlation to health. Early rising : Since you have a good spiritual inclination, that time is best suited, so you can put it good use.
No, you still don't have to be a good girl. It's okay to be naughty, because all well-meaning daughters are! LoL.
ethereal · F
You're right, she does mean well. But i already had reduced 10 kgs last year just bcoz she wanted me to, and i gained some back. so what's the use trying if my genes have that much weight. lol. I've been trying to reduce my weight since childhood and i've accepted that's how this body is going to be in this life, coz no matter what i stay in this weight-range i am now..but my mom wants me to be slim, which is not possible coz i always gain back. haha. And i'm more than healthy, i hardly ever fall sick, no flu etc either. Just one fever in whole year. Anyways that's not the point. I agree that job and study will provide me financial independence and that was what i had wanted in the beginning, but then as i got more into being spiritual, i realized i wanted to be free, not financially, just free. lol. But i guess, since we live in society, we have to make a living and do all that. I'm okay with it now. :)
Thank you. ^^
thoughtbubble
Yeah, you are right about the weight thing, one has to take the body type into consideration.
ethereal · F
:)