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I Think Verbal Abuse Is Just As Bad As Physical Abuse

After being verbally attacked by my husband i'd play this song on repeat. [youtube=https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nZ_bPWDmiuQ]

i was spoken to like dirt, called a liar to validate his paranoia, intimidated, and threatened. That's the song that told me not to listen to him.

It's hard to never have any peace for a single night. To lay awake wondering when the abuse will begin and then get attacked verbally for a minimum of 2 hours and for as long as 4 hours.. Starting around 10pm. Then being too anxious to sleep for 2 hours after he's gone quiet, due to the alcohol finally knocking him out.

When i was in therapy and i looked like i saw a ghost when he called during therapy (to demand to know where i was and how i got there) and when i became tense everytime he was mentioned, i was told that i was being abused. How is it abuse when the police will do nothing when i just want my husband to leave me alone and stop threatening my life so that i can sleep?

i'm now separated from him and don't miss him, because i remember very little good left about him and very little good left in him.
SoFine · 46-50, F
Find healthy ways to let the angst go. Else you will get into another toxic relationship.
You to you - is your most important relationship. You validate you, You complete you.
Till you build you up from within, your worth of self, your love of self. You will go from man to man, still unhappy.

True love is self-love. This inner love, is the soil of your life. When we forgive those that hurt us, we release the chains we chain us to them. That is, what they did is not OK, yet we don't need that to indentyfy us, let this baggage go or your body will become deflated, your inner spirit weak.

(Forgive yourself for trusting and loving him.)

You are your happy place in life, you are it.
shimmeringrose · 46-50, F
@SoFine i'm not upset with him, but i know i can never be with him and that i have PTSD triggers. i'm fairly upset with myself about having accepted him back after he'd attacked me physically that one time.

i posted this in hopes of helping someone else.

Although, i have yet to learn self love. That was taken from me.
ReneeT · 61-69, M
Verbal abuse to me is just as threatening and just as hurtful. He's playing mind games that you don't deserve.
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Hasmita · M
It's abuse.
I'm sorry.

 
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