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I Think Verbal Abuse Is Just As Bad As Physical Abuse

At what point do you give up on a verbally abusive person? Knowing they have a mental illness, does this mean they don't mean to be abusive? When do you stop? After ten years? Thirty? How much is too much.

What if this is one of your own children? Are you obliged to accept it as parental duty?

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DiamondPrincess89 · 31-35, F

Verbal abuse is still damaging to the psyche. I've had to deal with it since I was 10 - by parents. No, you cannot accept it. It has no place in the home nor the outside, because others will feel unsafe.

It's part of the reason I'm out and about more than home (unless I'm tired).

Serenitree · F

@DiamondPrincess89 Fortunately we don't live in the same home. But, she has either driven away or been abandoned by most of the family. I feel sad seeing her so alone.

DiamondPrincess89 · 31-35, F

@Serenitree Ouch. Well, I do hope things will turn up. She needs to examine herself (her life) and see what shortcomings need to be removed.

Serenitree · F

@DiamondPrincess89 this isn't a matter of shortcomings. It's a mental illness diagnosed and treated and she's gone to therapy and taken medicines. She hated the meds, said she's allergic to them. Doc gave her a different prescription. She refused to take the pills, because she claims to be allergic to all pills.

DiamondPrincess89 · 31-35, F

Whoa... Unfortunately, I'm not an expert at medicine (pills, per se). What mental illness was she diagnosed with?

Serenitree · F

@DiamondPrincess89 Several actually. Borderline, for one. Paranoia, (but not related to schizophrenia) Agoraphobia,( related to the paranoia.) Oppositional disorder. And psychotic behaviour.

And not diagnosed....maybe because there's no word for it, she hates everyone, (meaning all of our family and all of our friends) and feels that, as her mother I should disassociate myself from them. It's the only thing to do if I love her. Cut off every other person in my family and stick by her, only.

DiamondPrincess89 · 31-35, F

@Serenitree Bummer.

Serenitree · F

@DiamondPrincess89 yes. It's sad, because there is no way in hell im turning my back on 14 other family members because she told me I'm a bad mother. I'd BE a bad mother if I dumped the other three daughters, six grandkids and great grands.