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How do I bring myself to stop worrying about my mom so much?

She's extremely vulnerable, never eating whenever she shares dinner, always let's everyone walks over her and constantly disrespects her. She's been married to a man that has belittled and criticized her food (even though she's an excellent cook) for decades. I just worry about her because she's not one to fight back and stand up for herself and I HATE to see her being disrespected. As a result, I am always in arguments with my older brother and father whenever they're being disrespectful. For this reason, I'm not on speaking terms with either of them.

I hate my household and country at large and I CAN'T WAIT for an opportunity to migrate but I just get overwhelmingly heartbroken whenever I think of leaving her behind.

I know I have a life to live and all but my mom has been through soooooo much darn abuse, both physically and verbally and I just have a soft spot for her.

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Vivaci

Awww....I’m so sorry you’re going through this. 🥺

You should go abroad first and then when you’re capable enough, you can get her to join you. 🤗

Alifeinterrupted · 26-30, F

@Vivaci thank you! I'm really appreciative

Vivaci

@Alifeinterrupted Please understand that you’re not alone and never lose your courage. 🤗💪

Alifeinterrupted · 26-30, F

@Vivaci that's really refreshing to hear from a complete stranger. Thank you so much

Vivaci

I’m glad you defend her and stand up to her abusers...I’ve been in an abusive relationship myself, so I know what you’re talking bout. Hugggggssss 🥺@Alifeinterrupted

Alifeinterrupted · 26-30, F

@Vivaci I solemnly hope, from the very bottom of my heart, that you find the strength to SAFELY remove yourself from such a situation..ESPECIALLY if there's children involved.

I think it completely destroyed me mentally, growing up and seeing my mom being treated like that..to date, I'm unable to maintain a relationship with any man because as soon as a trait my dad possesses starts to surface..I'm lonnnng gone and it's really tough.

Vivaci

I know exactly what you mean!!

I’ve separated from him emotionally and physically for many years now. But I don’t like to trust anyone who looks remotely like him. That is so natural, isn’t it? 🥺@Alifeinterrupted

Alifeinterrupted · 26-30, F

@Vivaci yes..yes it is! I hope you heal and heal well! I'm here for you..should you ever need a listening ear or just a stranger to vent to 🤗

Vivaci

@Alifeinterrupted awww...thank you! Same goes to you...💙🤗💙🤗