Pick a day or weekend, before school starts, where you two can have time alone. I'm proud of your son for manning up and letting his father know the reality of his son. It doesn't mean its not fixable. Your son feels guilty for saying it to his dad. Which means he has your heart. He knows it had to be said, but feels guilty he said it. To bad Dad and son can't talk it out over a beer in the back yard... I know the age. Take your son to a cowboys game. Or a day at Magic mountain. Someplace where you and he can erase the world temporarily, and see the vividness of you two... I'm sorry for both of you, and the mutual pain. And possibly mutual feelings, you do not say...
Yes I know it is hard to hear those things. My son is 14 and has been suspended for school for having weed. So I ground him and take away his phone, tablet, xbox and now he is pissed at me and says he hates me. Very hard thing for a dad to hear. I told him that my dad would have beat the crap out of me and grounded me for a month and that I didnt want to to that to him. I sometimes feel like I can not win.
@TxBtrflyX2 Actually, that's the age. I think it's an evolutionary thing that drives boys at that age to create their own "tribe", seek their fortune, whatever. It's why I left home at 17 and never looked back.
I have been sick to my stomach ever since. To make matters worse, my son feels guilty. HE feels guilty! Like he has done something wrong. @Pinkstarburst
I hated home so much at 17 I joined the Army to get out, But my mom was a drunken slut my dad was gone in another crappy marriage . So the Army was piecefull
