I Know Loss
HAPPY HALLOWEEN! Plz be safe!
Sincerely,
Shewolfiie69/ Lucretzia 😔
HAPPY HALLOWEEN! Plz be safe!
Sincerely,
Shewolfiie69/ Lucretzia 😔
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Justbychance · M
The loss of someone close can be deeply distressing; some might get through such loss easily whilst some of us don't. There is no 'correct' way for us to grieve, but instead we each grieve the way [i]we[/i] find is right for us. But in either case, we grieve. Happy memories live with us along with, what might be, memories that aren't as easy to let go of. I can relate with that, I truly can.
I've gone through the first of two Anniversary losses; one past in February, with another loss is this December. It still stings, it hurts and memories are all that's left us, which reminds me of the Simon and Garfunkel song. 'Life goes on' seems to be considered a jerk reaction, a frame of mind that we each desperately want to reach; it's far from easy. Whilst the reality is that we go on after our loved ones leave us. Time truly is the great healer, time will make you strong and time creates our future memories. Life is a series of memories, it's how we cherish and manage them. The saddest songs can strengthen us.
This song seems to be rather sad, whilst it makes me consider life itself in always searching for a bright future, whilst seizing every day and grasping onto anything that can bring a smile; no matter how small. Maybe it might help you, too?
: [b]"Old Friends / 'Bookends Theme'"[/b]:
[center][youtube=https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6YpK-qrGQrg][/center]
[b]Lyrics:[/b]
[b]'Old Friends'[/b]
Old Friends, old friends
Sat on their park bench
like bookends
newspaper blown through
the grass
Fall on the round toes
of the high shoes
of the old friends.
Old friends
Winter companions
The old men
Lost in their overcoats
Waiting for the suns.
The sounds of the city
Sifting through trees
Settle like dust
On the shoulders
Of the old friends
Can you imagine us
Years from today,
Sharing a park bench quietly?
How terribly strange
To be seventy?
Old friends
Memory brushes the same years
Silently sharing the same fear
[b]'Book Ends (Reprise)[/b]
Time it was
And what a time it was
It was . . .
A time of innocence
A time of confidences
Long ago . . . it must be . . .
I have a photograph
Preserve your memories
They're all that's left you
I've gone through the first of two Anniversary losses; one past in February, with another loss is this December. It still stings, it hurts and memories are all that's left us, which reminds me of the Simon and Garfunkel song. 'Life goes on' seems to be considered a jerk reaction, a frame of mind that we each desperately want to reach; it's far from easy. Whilst the reality is that we go on after our loved ones leave us. Time truly is the great healer, time will make you strong and time creates our future memories. Life is a series of memories, it's how we cherish and manage them. The saddest songs can strengthen us.
This song seems to be rather sad, whilst it makes me consider life itself in always searching for a bright future, whilst seizing every day and grasping onto anything that can bring a smile; no matter how small. Maybe it might help you, too?
: [b]"Old Friends / 'Bookends Theme'"[/b]:
[center][youtube=https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6YpK-qrGQrg][/center]
[b]Lyrics:[/b]
[b]'Old Friends'[/b]
Old Friends, old friends
Sat on their park bench
like bookends
newspaper blown through
the grass
Fall on the round toes
of the high shoes
of the old friends.
Old friends
Winter companions
The old men
Lost in their overcoats
Waiting for the suns.
The sounds of the city
Sifting through trees
Settle like dust
On the shoulders
Of the old friends
Can you imagine us
Years from today,
Sharing a park bench quietly?
How terribly strange
To be seventy?
Old friends
Memory brushes the same years
Silently sharing the same fear
[b]'Book Ends (Reprise)[/b]
Time it was
And what a time it was
It was . . .
A time of innocence
A time of confidences
Long ago . . . it must be . . .
I have a photograph
Preserve your memories
They're all that's left you
ineedadrink · 51-55, M
Anniversaries can be so tough to get through, as you are finding out. My mom died seven years ago and her birthday is coming up soon. She had a tough life and I picked up some life lessons from her. One is that we keep on keeping on, through hardships, bad times & deaths. The old "one food in front of the other" deal sounds cliched until you need to do it and then you see the wisdom.
One thing I suggest you remember is that you were once part of your mother and therefor she is still part of you, she lives on through you. When you enjoy a beautiful sunrise or sunset or laugh at something she used to laugh at, she lives on. While it is said that living well is the best revenge, it is also the best memorial. A mom worthy of the title wants the best for her child and yours wants you to carry on for her. Try to see the beauty in life, try to find what happiness you can, for her. Do your good works with the elderly & the animals you help and know that your work is valuable and beautiful. You have great a passion for those, your inner beauty matching your outer. Hopefully they will lend consolation to you in your hour of need.
One thing I suggest you remember is that you were once part of your mother and therefor she is still part of you, she lives on through you. When you enjoy a beautiful sunrise or sunset or laugh at something she used to laugh at, she lives on. While it is said that living well is the best revenge, it is also the best memorial. A mom worthy of the title wants the best for her child and yours wants you to carry on for her. Try to see the beauty in life, try to find what happiness you can, for her. Do your good works with the elderly & the animals you help and know that your work is valuable and beautiful. You have great a passion for those, your inner beauty matching your outer. Hopefully they will lend consolation to you in your hour of need.
tan778 · 31-35, M
@Shewolfiie69 yes last month
Sinnerwithaheart · 56-60, F
@Sinnerwithaheart I sincerely thank you for that!!!
allsfinebime2 · M
The reality is that you will grieve forever. You will not 'get over' the loss of a loved one; you will learn to live with it. You will heal and you will rebuild yourself around the loss you have suffered. You will be whole again but you will never be the same. Nor should you be the same nor would you want to...Elizabeth Kubler Ross
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Please know that you ain't alone.
As you mentioned, your adopted family is here whenever you feel down to make you smile and offer shoulder to shed that salty water.
Identify that strength hidden within you.
Afterall you are your mother's daughty. 👭 You can't be weak.
Please know that you ain't alone.
As you mentioned, your adopted family is here whenever you feel down to make you smile and offer shoulder to shed that salty water.
Identify that strength hidden within you.
Afterall you are your mother's daughty. 👭 You can't be weak.