I Had A Fight With My Boyfriend

And it seems like a big one

I just flew home for the weekend and the boyfriend picked me up from the airport like the sweetie that he is. We got to my parent's house a few hours ago and were hanging out with m&d in the kitchen just chilling and talking.

Some background ... About three weeks ago I got invited to apply to something pretty prestigious. I'm currently in the Navy and this is not something that everyone does. I don't want to go into details, but it's kinda a big deal. I Skyped with mom about it and she was 100% completely against it. It would change the direction of the job I would have within the Navy and she was not in favor. Based on her reaction, I didn't tell the boyfriend about it at all. But I did tell my commanders that I was all in.

Anyway, fast forward back to tonight standing around the kitchen counter and my mom brings it up and looks at the boyfriend and says she hopes he can talk some sense into me. He played it cool at first but the look on his face made it pretty clear that this was the first he was hearing of it and he wasn't happy about that. Mom apologized to me quickly and said it looked like we needed to talk. Ya think? 🙄

Anyway, he and I walked out front and stood leaning on his truck for an hour "talking." Lot's of not nice things were said, some loudly. Finally he left saying he needed to go cool down before he said anything he didn't mean (as if everything he said up to that point he meant).

So I know I screwed up. Relationships are built on openness and trust. But nothing in this decision changes my total commitment time to the Navy (although it is a decision that would help advancement if I did decide to stay in longer). Ugh, anyway, instead of being out on a date, I'm sitting at the desk in my old room trying to figure out if he's going to call me.

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Rutterman · 46-50, M

Sorry things blew-up with your boyfriend, Sara.

Your decision not to tell him about accepting the Navy's offer certainly is understandable in view of your mother's reaction to it. I'm guessing you would have told him fairly soon anyway. And even if it could be argued that you should have talked to him about it earlier, I really think he overreacted. If apologies are in order here, you aren't the only individual who needs to make one.

I sincerely hope your bf comes to his senses and the two of you can get past this.

Congratulations on being offered this opportunity for advancement in your Naval career.

sarabee1995 · 26-30, F

@Rutterman Yes, I fully intended to tell him this weekend face-to-face. The main reason I didn't tell him yet wasn't that my mom got all excited, but rather that her getting all excited (negative excitement, not positive) was difficult to deal with over Skype.