I Had A Fight With My Boyfriend

And it seems like a big one

I just flew home for the weekend and the boyfriend picked me up from the airport like the sweetie that he is. We got to my parent's house a few hours ago and were hanging out with m&d in the kitchen just chilling and talking.

Some background ... About three weeks ago I got invited to apply to something pretty prestigious. I'm currently in the Navy and this is not something that everyone does. I don't want to go into details, but it's kinda a big deal. I Skyped with mom about it and she was 100% completely against it. It would change the direction of the job I would have within the Navy and she was not in favor. Based on her reaction, I didn't tell the boyfriend about it at all. But I did tell my commanders that I was all in.

Anyway, fast forward back to tonight standing around the kitchen counter and my mom brings it up and looks at the boyfriend and says she hopes he can talk some sense into me. He played it cool at first but the look on his face made it pretty clear that this was the first he was hearing of it and he wasn't happy about that. Mom apologized to me quickly and said it looked like we needed to talk. Ya think? 🙄

Anyway, he and I walked out front and stood leaning on his truck for an hour "talking." Lot's of not nice things were said, some loudly. Finally he left saying he needed to go cool down before he said anything he didn't mean (as if everything he said up to that point he meant).

So I know I screwed up. Relationships are built on openness and trust. But nothing in this decision changes my total commitment time to the Navy (although it is a decision that would help advancement if I did decide to stay in longer). Ugh, anyway, instead of being out on a date, I'm sitting at the desk in my old room trying to figure out if he's going to call me.

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lasergraph · 70-79, M

He should be supportive but not controlling. The decision affects YOUR future, he may or may not affect your future. I think you will regret missed opportunities more than missed boyfriends.

I will leave you with this note:

OPPORTUNITY
(c) 2017 Edward York

I stood at the doorway of opportunity,
And was greeted with a grin.
I stood there feeling awkward,
Afraid to venture in.

I approached it with suspicion.
And didn't trust the smile.
I wouldn't make the effort.
To walk that extra mile.

It was cloaked in ambiguity,
With nothing in the clear.
I would have ventured closer,
But was held back by my fear.

I was like so many others,
Who cried out to have a chance.
I was invited to the party,
But simply failed to dance.\

sarabee1995 · 26-30, F

@lasergraph Thanks, but I'm not one to be held back by fear or that simply fails to dance. I took the opportunity and am applying. I just didn't tell him about it.