What Imperfections have you learn to accept

@Wol62 Maybe a B-cup? I really don't know. When I was thinner if I raised my arms up my chest would be flat. I kind of liked that. :)

@WonderGirl1 It's Not unusual for women to struggle with their body image no matter what size you are. The most important thing is learning to be content with how you look.

@WonderGirl1 They ARE gorgeous.

@Thereyouare I was dating a guy with a bald spot on the top of his head. I didn't realize it until one time he bend over. In my offense, he is 6'5 and it was hard to see the top of his head.

@QueenandCrown I've had a few lovers who mentioned it to me and I would look at them saying is this what we want to discuss at this point they would catch me on my knees in front of them

@Thereyouare Though I was surprised when I saw it (I've known him for years and didn't notice it), I never mentioned his bald spot because it wasn't important.

@Mardrae Unwelcome comments are soooo annoying. I use to wear a face full of makeup until a few years ago, and people would ask me why I stopped. In my head I would think 'because I want to!'

@QueenandCrown exactly! It's none of their business

@ScarletWitch Ok, I will try!

First, some context. I am monogamously married, and I have not been seeking new relationships. Having said that, of course I can acknowledge that I feel an attraction to particular women, without acting on that attraction in inappropriate ways. My wife can say the analogous thing about men. We see this as perfectly normal, and not at all controversial.

So with the understanding that I am talking about "attraction" in that context...

When I was younger, I bought into the definition of beauty put forth in movies and advertisements. I think back at what an idiot I was to have such a narrow view of what made a woman look beautiful.

I have also discovered, as time goes on, that my idea of "sexy" seems to be quite different from a lot of people's idea, especially people online. A woman mugging for the camera, trying her hardest to "look sexy" actually bores me. After all, it's not as if I have never seen a woman's body before!

For me, beauty and sexiness are far more profound when I "discover" them as I get to know a woman. If she gives off a vibe that attracts me, and I get to know her, I find that whatever physical features she has tend to appear attractive to me.

So while I am not so "Buddhist-like" that "imperfections" will strike me as attractive on their own (just as "traditional beauty" will not strike me as attractive on its own), those blemishes are an intimate part of who a woman is. If I find myself attracted to her, then I find myself attracted to all of her.

Furthermore, those blemishes have stories behind them. Part of emotional intimacy is knowing each other's stories. And that is even more true about internal scars than external ones.

In short, women become more attractive to me the closer we become, regardless of the specifics of their physical appearance.

@morrgin I can relate. In fact I am sitting at a dermatologist appointment right now.

@QueenandCrown I have a condition. Where I cut my face. It's not so simple where life can continue.

@jjoe01 is Winnie the pooh Tennessean?

@Tennessee2 I think he's Chinese

@wintersecret That's all you can be.

@QueenandCrown That's what is important too :)

@ozgirl512 Aho to that!

@KmuhfknC I have a really slender friend and she's desperately trying to gain weight.

@FreeSpirit1 Your voice is unique, it commands others to take notice of you.