Do/Have you felt like the punching bad of your family or friends?

I mean like when something goes wrong and YOU get yelled at.
That’s happened to me so many times. My aunt SCREAMED at me to get my ass up and help her when me, my other aunt and cousin were all resting. She only screamed at ME not them. I cried for an hour and she never apologized.
One time when someone went into my grandparents house. One of my cousins immediately went straight to me and called me out. He said, “Look I’m not trying to sound like an asshole to you but you were the last person to go into their room to get something and YOU left the door open! YOU NEED TO KEEP THE DOORS CLOSED!!!!”
My grandparents scolded at me for being so thoughtless, careless and not closing their door. I’m the family punching bag. I think it’s because they know I don’t speak up for myself or call people out and I’m autistic. I hate being yelled at.
When one of my cousins lived with us, he yelled at me to get my ass in the kitchen and help him and I was taking to long to get there. I felt like should have NEVER been born. 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

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Jdanielb

Whose fault is it your autistic? It is not yours!!.. and there is nothing wrong with you..

Ignore them if they mistreat you. Live your life happy

LaylaTheTallGirl · 18-21, F

@Jdanielb my dad told me the same thing there’s nothing wrong with me and just stop letting people push me around and let them talk to me any kind away especially that I’m a young woman I need to especially have self-respect for myself or I’m going to and I’ve been abusive relationships. My older sister sternly told me that I better start standing up for myself or I’m gonna end up in an abusive relationship.

Jdanielb

@LaylaTheTallGirl whether or not another person is nice to you or not, has nothing to do with that.. I'm sure you will find somebody who will treat you fairly..

You shouldn't have to stick up for yourself in a relationship, they should just naturally care for you

LaylaTheTallGirl · 18-21, F

@Jdanielb yeah that’s true. I thought it was a developmental disability but my dad told me unfortunately that I was born with it. My sister who is a special ed teacher told me he’s right and I was born disabled but that doesn’t mean somethings wrong with me. That really crushed me. Thought I was born normal like everyone else.

SomeMichGuy · M

@LaylaTheTallGirl I truly think that it will be found to be related to biochemical lebels, neuron sheathing, etc., which effectively set the sensitivity to input.

It seems that autism is a reaction to too much input.

If we figure out how to regulate this, I think we could turn down this sensitivity in autistic people--and turn *up* this sensitivity in people who are, say, of normal/dull normal IQs--and have humans being able to use their brains more...and not be pushed into autism, but be observant, smart, etc.

Jdanielb

@LaylaTheTallGirl I'm sure you were.. drs do not know what necessarily causes autism but I see life as energy.. energy in comes out.

If energy in your world is contrary to natures design it will manifest out contrary to you.. so in my opinion it's not you but rather the world around you causing your issue.

It manifests differently in all.. some are perverts, some are addicted, some have cancer or other sicknesses.. so dont blame yourself, there's an answer that blames circumstances you have no control over.. your fine, all human life is a pearl, especially ones who aren't full of hatred but receive hatred..