Today is hard.

@Sharon my husband was emotionally abusive to all of us, the older two want nothing to do with him.

@SpoiledRottenPassengerPrincess Be guided by what they want. If any do want to call him, let them. No point doing anything to make your children resent you.

@SW-User We have a civil protection order, he's not allowed to contact us or be within 500 ft of us. But I am allowed to contact him, I just don't because he is a shit show. My older 2 want nothing to do with him. My younger 2 would talk to him if I called, but they are too young to understand the abuse. They just know that daddy was grumpy all the time.

@SpoiledRottenPassengerPrincess if it was my case, and the younger wanted to, I'd just let him talk to him on the phone and say happy day. But you're the mom you have to decide 💚.

@ginnyfromtheblock i just wanna say that i see people here saying you’re denying them access to their dad and they don’t know shit. no dad is better than an emotionally abusive dad. even if they wanted to talk to him, you’re protecting them. you know better than literal children. i think you know this because you’re loving and wise and wonderful but my claws are about to come out 😠

@ginnyfromtheblock I appreciate the hell out of you ❤️

@smiler2012 he denied them access to himself their entire lives by choosing a 2nd shift job and to stay up all night alone instead of waking up earlier to see them before work.🤷 He also emotionally and physically intimidated and abused them. I feel guilty because I am a good person, not because he has done anything to deserve their love.