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My nephew is 14, and he is away at a residential program where he also attends school. Similar to a military academy, but not military.

In his last letter, he mentioned that in this program there is no positive attention or reward for good behavior, because good behavior is the accepted norm. Rather the only attention the boys receive is negative, when they make a mistake. For example, he just elected to run a 10 mile challenge and completed it, with a good time. At the finish line he was given his time, but no other input. He knew he was successful because he received no attention that morning!😵

Well I certainly love the idea of a land where good is the only accepted norm! I can't wait to visit! Geez.

I have spent my life working with children, and now dogs. I am constantly using positive reinforcement, and I'm programmed to ignore as much negative behavior as I can,
in the interest of not rewarding it.
This new concept is blowing my mind.

The nephew is doing great, his attitude is upbeat. What do you think of only acknowledging the negative? Does that even work?

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FORMERLYbatovn · 56-60, M

I would think it would not be for everyone....but it certainly would be very effective with some people. Those who lack self esteem or self worth would struggle(at least for a while) with it. I certainly agree that good behavior should be the expected norm...

acpguy · C

@FORMERLYbatovn Self esteem is what you give to yourself for doing good deeds / work. No one else can substitute rewards for that, you give losers rewards like liberals want to do today and you end up with losers.

EmilyEdith · 56-60, F

@acpguy that appears to be this schools Theory. My nephew took a lot of pride in his time oh, he had a number in his head and he beat it. He did not need to win or hear what a good job he did or stand around and listen to anyone else's time. He met his personal goal, and took a lot of pride in it. So maybe for some kids less is more!