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Isn’t it weird?

Isn’t it [i]weird[/i] how almost every woman has a story of an angry man calling her a whore for not wanting to talk to him and then trying to follow her home, while somehow almost no man has ever seen this or done anything to intervene?

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SW-User

I've never seen that, quite honestly, and hence couldn't have done anything about it. Indeed, men would be more likely to do it when there are less witnesses. That stands to reason.

I cannot recall one single incidence of seeing a guy following a girl home. If he was then I didn't realise that he was. To realise that he was I'd have had to be following both of them to her home myself. You see transactions in passing most of the time.

I don't recall having seen a guy call a woman a whore for not wanting to talk to him, or at least not since secondary school. I have seen any number of domestic incidents between existing couples and I have seen any number of fights between men and other men, or women and other women. Incidents between men and women outside of existing relationships are not something that I've witnessed a lot of.

TiffAching · 26-30, F

@SW-User I mean, you are demonstrating my point. It’s [i]weird[/i] how little men notice it or intervene to stop it, whether because they genuinely don’t notice, don’t realize what’s happening in front of them, don’t think it’s their place to intervene, or think it’s all okay.

SW-User

@TiffAching Maybe I'm not demonstrating your point at all. Maybe I've just genuinely not encountered that or been in a position to understand when it was happening. Neither of those are me ignoring the problem. I've been in many situations myself that others haven't noticed or been aware of. I don't automatically take the view that they were aware but chose not to intervene.

TiffAching · 26-30, F

@SW-User Considering how the very first of the explanations I offered was “because they genuinely don’t notice”—which is a value-neutral statement that does not imply ignoring the problem or siding with harassers, but merely [i]not noticing[/i]—I’d still say you are.

SW-User

@TiffAching Or, as I said, maybe it just didn't happen in the places that I have been to. I've witnessed women receiving unwanted attention, for sure, but not the specific examples that you've given and I've not seen or heard from any female friend of them being followed home.

We all have our own experiences.

TiffAching · 26-30, F

@SW-User With all due respect, it feels like the hairs you’re trying to further split have already been split to their component atoms. But in positive news, I’ll let you have co-author credit when I publish my study on the discovery of the heretofore unknown element of Hairmium.

(EDIT: Lots of shitty things happen around me that I don’t notice at the time, for any number of reasons. Doesn’t mean they don’t happen.)

SW-User

@TiffAching If you don't notice shitty things happening it might just be that they didn't happen. It might just be that certain behaviours affect certain social circles more than others. It might just be that not everyone shares the same experience.

TiffAching · 26-30, F

@SW-User Nobody is denying that here, but thanks for setting up those strawmen. Been getting lots of crows here lately.

SW-User

@TiffAching Is this how you usually go about a conversation? 😂 So many little barbs.

TiffAching · 26-30, F

@SW-User When I’m dealing with people arguing in bad faith, yes, I do tend to treat them like the clowns they are.

SW-User

@TiffAching You have made the decision for yourself that I am arguing in bad faith, simply because I question your narrative. You have clearly become too used to having internet arguments and now treat everyone with the same contempt.

TiffAching · 26-30, F

@SW-User Your response to “isn’t it weird that so many women have experienced men doing something shitty but somehow almost no men have noticed?” was to say, “I’ve never seen it, therefore it never happened.”

So yeah, I’m pretty comfortable assuming you’re not arguing in good faith.

(EDIT: Also, just saw your post from a couple hours ago about how you’re literally masturbating to this right now, and ... not to kink-shame, but roping someone into your kink without their consent is [i]peak[/i] proving my point.)

SW-User

@TiffAching Quote where I said that it never happened. I said that it is possible that it never happened, which it is. You automatically take the stance that it has, based on the narrative that you want to push.

TiffAching · 26-30, F

@SW-User If you want me to continue dunking on you so you can keep jerking off to it, I’m going to have to start charging you an hourly rate.

https://similarworlds.com/30-Miscellaneous/3456303-Do-you-ever-do-this-I-sometimes-encourage-verbal

Also, I did not consent to be your jerkoff material here, so ... yeah. Consent is a thing that most people can ask for without too much trouble, just saying.