I Think Failed Relationships Change People

You deserve to be happy. You deserve to cry the good kind of tears that you never thought you would shed. Don't settle for someone who can't appreciate your value in their life. Don't settle for someone who wants to be around you one minute but is always pushing you away the next. When someone wants to be with you, it will show in everything that they do. They will fall in love with putting a smile on your face. They will fall in love with creating memories with you, instead of creating problems. They will have this understanding that, someone like you does not come around often, and they will do everything in their power to keep you in their life. It really is simple. If they love you they will put in the effort. If they don't, they will try to hide behind you doing all of the work to keep the relationship from ending. Find someone who would swim across 100 seas to get to your love, not someone who has no problem watching you drown.
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bcvegas4u · 70-79, M

ABQ1952NM Timing is everything. After being divorced twice in my 20's and thinking I'd missed the boat, I met the love of my life when I was 45. It was perfect. But I found out that if we had met any other time, it wouldn't have worked for either of us.
Be yourself. Be the person you would want to be around and enjoy life. If there is someone out there, you will meet. You just have to be ready.

ABQ1952NM · 70-79, M

I deserve to be happy, but I have one problem. Finding that special someone to give love, peace, respect, and happiness to has been depressing. All I want is to give her the love and affection she needs to be happy and fulfilled. I haven't found her and it is sad to know that she doesn't even know I exist.

SW-User

Breakdowns happen. It's great if they happen during courtship. Better if before children. Shitty after children.

You do your best to pick up the pieces but when respect and trust are lost. You are stuck deciding if co-parenting in different homes is better.