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I Hate My Mother

I can't take the pressure of constantly feeling guilty because of my toxic mother making everything seems my fault. The constant abuse, the scarred memories of her abuse. Feeling trapped because of i can't do anything to stop her from bullying me. Help..please.

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Flenflyys · 31-35, F

You are an adult, walk away.

Valencia · 26-30, M

@Flenflyys i really wish if i can, i can't pay for my college on my own + i have no where to go. If i moved out right now, i can find a couple of jobs by the end of this week but i'd have no where to stay as well as i'd be forced to drop college.

bigjohndl · 70-79, M

@Valencia If you can't walk away then you need to make the best of it. Find ways to compliment her and do service for her. Serving others makes you feel better and softens their hears to you.

Good luck. I know what it like to have an abusive mother.

Valencia · 26-30, M

@bigjohndl nah mate, you're literally asking me to treat her well while she LITERALLY mentally and emotionally abuses me. I can't, i won't.

Flenflyys · 31-35, F

It sounds like thats the solution, obviously not easy. But thats what needs to happen.

bigjohndl · 70-79, M

@Valencia Then you may be doomed to live in such a relationship until you take the initiative to get out of it. Sometimes you have to be the bigger person and take control of the situation to better yourself.

Good luck.

Valencia · 26-30, M

@Flenflyys i know.. I'm a boxer too, i can do a few games here and there and get some extra (good) money out of it but, again, i'd be forced to drop college and i can't do that. I need to get my diploma so i can sustain easily on myself.

Valencia · 26-30, M

@bigjohndl you'd be surprised how many times i tried to make peace with her and make everything right. I even bought her gifts on normal days to surprise her and take initiative to better out relationship. She never used any of my gifts really until i pointed it out and she completely forgot about it and went straight back to abuse.

Flenflyys · 31-35, F

@Valencia your attempts are probably wasted efforts...if your mother is anything like mine she is a narcissist who's agenda does not involve respecting you. Best method:keep at arms length.

Valencia · 26-30, M

@Flenflyys You just perfectly explained mine, might add who has nothing but hatred in her heart for me. I'll keep her at arms length till i'm able to move out and do well on my own then i swear to everything that's holy on this earth i'll make her wish come true, she said she wanted me dead. I'll be dead to her as i can be. She won't see me again, she won't hear from me ever again.