I Am Fascinated By Human Behavior

So, here these people invited you into their real lives when it seems you really only wanted to know them at an introduction level - and keep it that way.

The problem with first impressions is that we all have been socialized how to present our best selves whether in-person, on facebook, or even here. And, so we all show off the fantasy we want others to see and the flawlessness that we each wish we had. The thing is, at least in my life experience, every single one of us has flaws. We all are living in some form of a house of cards that is exposed when we invite others inside.

I am not advocating for living in a dirty or trashed-out house and I'm not saying my reaction would have necessarily been different than yours (in fact, I probably wouldn't have even gone in). But... it just seems superficial to express the horror of a less than flawless presentation when someone finally works up the courage to open up and let you "in" to see their flaws.

I don't understand your sentence, "of course, there are ones you know right off the bat who and what they are by how they look". Can you give me an example? And, with respect, where this older couple is concerned it seems to me you judged them twice. Once by their appearance and once by the condition their home was in on that particular day at that particular time. Neither one of those things tells you anything at all about either of them.

that is one heck of a shocker...and yet they invited you over. but i agree. what you wear and how you carry yourself speaks volumes.

Wow, not so good.🙊 But that could go for some people who don't dress the best, and there hair isn't the best, but then there house is perfectly neat clean and nice. Sometimes there's some people who have so much money that they don't want to expose it to the outside public so they dress comfortably.. Anyway that is true never judge the book by its cover.