I Am Fascinated By Human Behavior

The old saying goes... Never judge a book by it's cover. But you know, we all do. It's in our presentation...how we look, dress and carry ourselves. Of course, there are ones you know right off the bat, who and what they are by how they look.

I met this lovely older couple, so prim and proper. Nicely dressed and clean cut, mannered and just nice folks. They invited me over, I loved the idea and I went. Wow! As I drove up to their house, everything was so nicely trimmed with a pretty yard. What a beautiful place!

They met me at the door, as I entered ... I went into shock...Lordy be.. I hope it wasn't seen in my face what ran thru my head. The house inside was terrible! Dirty, trashed out, in total disarray! They acted just as I have known them. But... I was.. in awe! Speechless. wow!
I still think they are real nice and all... but nothing like I thought.
To me, your home tells a lot about you. Just saying....

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shytexasgirl · 51-55, F

I don't understand your sentence, "of course, there are ones you know right off the bat who and what they are by how they look". Can you give me an example? And, with respect, where this older couple is concerned it seems to me you judged them twice. Once by their appearance and once by the condition their home was in on that particular day at that particular time. Neither one of those things tells you anything at all about either of them.

Echoing · 61-69, F

@shytexasgirl Well, I am guilty in the first degree. I didn't judge them for how they lived in their own house.. not my place. It spoke volumes to me in their contradictions of themselves. The wish for the world to see them in a certain way...down to the laces of their shoes. But their living space said, something different to me. And for how some dress or carry themselves.. yes, it tells me how you feel about yourself. I am not talking about wearing fancy clothes or jewel... but you can tell if someone is proud of who they are by how they present themselves.

shytexasgirl · 51-55, F

Just food for thought - "The wish for the world to see them in a certain way" is merely your assumption. They very likely couldn't care less how the world views them and they are dressing in a way that pleased themselves. But I'll use myself as an example. If I walked in to the drug store at 2PM wearing pajamas, my hair amess, mascara smeared under my eyes I suppose others could look at me and think perhaps I'm homeless or at the very least, a slob who has no pride. What they would not know is that I flew out of bed at 3AM because my daughter quit breathing again, I rode with her in the ambulance to the hospital and just left the hospital on my way home, stopping to get the meds I need to give her as soon as we arrive home. My home is spotless, I'm an organizational freak and people say my house looks like something in a magazine. What they may not know is that it is very common for someone under a great deal of stress because something major (my child's health) is completely out of their control to become obsessively clean and neat in their home because it makes the person feel like they have control of something in their life. It isn't because I'm trying to make a statement with my cleanliness. It's a OCD response to an incredibly stressful situation. I'm suggesting that things are never what they appear and unless you know a person's story, you will surely misjudge who or how they are

Echoing · 61-69, F

@shytexasgirl Oh yes! Exactly... What I am saying. Can't judge a book by it's cover. First of all... I am so sorry for your child being ill. I know what you are saying... Life isn't what it appears to be at times. Take care..

shelikesher

@shytexasgirl Exactly👍👍👍 👌 You couldn't have said it any better, but on the other hand there shouldn't be any excuse not to clean your own house, especially when you have invited someone new into your home; unless they are very ill, and cannot clean for them selves then that's a totally different story. So, I understand where Echoing is coming from. My place is very spotless too, coming from someone who is OCD when it comes to my house. Maybe🤔 this older couple are compulsive hoarders.. Anything is possible... Maybe subconsciously they are crying for help, and maybe they found Echoing to be someone trustworthy for their problem. I mean anything is possible.. Also, sorry about your child was ill. I hope he/her gets better..

Echoing · 61-69, F

@shelikesher yup... they are compulsive hoarders. They know I once had my own cleaning company. I once had 17 clients a month, I cleaned for. HUH... I just saw a light come on!

shelikesher

@Echoing Maybe they need help letting go of their junk. If you have time go look online youtube to see that show called "hoarders." They show a lot of people who have some serious issues with it..