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Should I tell my son about me and his friend having sex?

I'm a single 47 year old woman and I have an 18 year old son. My son has an extremely hot friend who is also 18. They've been best friends for years. Every time he came over we would flirt and we joke around. I really liked him a lot and he liked me too. About 3 months ago my son wasn't home but his friend stopped by and we started to talk and flirt. He told me that he had liked me for a while and he told me he wanted to have sex with me. I told him i liked him a lot and that I also really want to sleep with him but that we should wait a little before we have sex. I gave him a BJ to show him I was serious.

About a month later after we had discussed it fully and did some thinking we decided we still wanted to and we had sex in my room. We've been having safe sex the past 2 months and it's been amazing. He's so big and good and we both love doing it together. We do it about once a day for the past 2 months usually in my room or sometimes my sons room when he's not home. I know I can trust him because he hasn't told my son or anyone else.

It's perfectly legal and we're being safe so I'm not asking to be scolded. I'm starting to feel guilty. Not because he's my son's friend, but because he doesn't know. I originally didn't want him to know, but now i'm not sure. I feel bad sneaking behind his back and sleeping with his best friend. I dont know if he'll be ok with it and be mature enough to handle it or be mad at me and his friend. Either way i'm not gonna stop sleeping with his friend because we're both adults not looking for a relationship just good sex and we both love doing eachother. But no matter what I still feel bad he doesn't know. So should I tell him?
JustcallmeNameless · 36-40, F
Well you think he might be mad but you aren't gonna stop? And why the hell would you do it in your son's bed??? I don't think y'all actually like each other besides the sex. If I was your kid I'd be pissed as hell at the both of ya.
xuxuguinhu9 · 31-35, T
very hoenstly thats as disgusting as it goes.
you should feel very guilty. if your son is a good boy he would be shattered to know this
lonelyloner · 26-30, F
every one have own life , does he told you ever about his own sex life ? i think he did not may it be possible he fucked one of your close one , isn't it so why feel guilty ? if am in your position i will never told him anything till he is aware of that by own , just forgot all things and enjoy sex (all my opinion is my personal as per my own exp , you can be agree or not , it's up to you )
Lackwittyname · 46-50, M
First off doing it in his room is quite disrespectful and pretty shitty of you.

As for telling him, but you are not going to stop if it upsets him, than what is the point of telling him? If you feel guilty and want to tell him, fine, but then be willing to listen to him and potentially act accordingly. With you not being willing to stop all you are going to do is cause your son potential grief with you, potential loss of a best friend that you can keep fucking because obviously you care more about you than your son.

Who you choose to have sex with is your business, not judging that. Not factoring in emotional distress it could cause in your son with him finding out is just selfish of you.
ScarletWitch · 26-30, F
Disgusting. You knew this boy since he was a child. Pedophile grooming ass. This is why woman like you should never work in schools.
Momma101 · 46-50, F
[@386170,ScarletWitch] in his bed too
nochocolate5289 · 46-50, F
[@386170,ScarletWitch] I never said it was right
SammyJo · 51-55, F
Nah, not my idea of fun....even for me, I think, that's not a good thing. Hearts will be crushed, that's for sure....

nochocolate5289 · 46-50, F
[@1146285,SammyJo] you think so?
SammyJo · 51-55, F
[@1205090,nochocolate5289] Oh, for sure! A relationship with someone your son's same age isn't an issue as such (it's the friends thing), but putting that together with a 'no strings' design.......?

Phew! Not a good idea for long-term healthy son development in terms of relationships etc....

Just my thoughts....

SJD xx
MiraRoss · 26-30, F
This is so disrespectful to your son that's his best friend your gonna ruine there friendship and doing it in his bed wow so low. What kinda mum are you to chose fucking his best friend over having your son. Put yourself in his shoes and think about what you said.... Sorry but you need to grow up
nochocolate5289 · 46-50, F
[@765845,MiraRoss] I know you're right
HouseOfCards · 46-50, F
This sounds like it was written by the friend than a 40 something year old.
Deadteddybear · 26-30
[@778935,ThriftStore] It seems like a man with some sick mommy fetish wrote this. 😷 But ya never know
Keepitsimple · 51-55, F
Write it in lipstick on his mirror mom. Let the boy know you’re sick.
xuxuguinhu9 · 31-35, T
gosh if you wre my mom i would beat the xrap outta ya
OldMan70 · 70-79, M
First of all CONGRATULATIONS.. And thanks for sharing with us here. I hope that you are able soon to enjoy your new boy friend as a full time lover and have him move in with you - sharing all with his parents along with your son.
Hide nothing anymore!
The longer you wait to tell your son, the harder it will become to come clean and be honest with him.
Tell him your feelings and thank him for introducing you to his friend.

Tell him everything and be open and honest with him. That will set a good role model for him, and keep you in good communications with him in the future.

You've had sex in his bed! I'd even tell him that and everywhere else in the house (and outside) you and his friend have been having sex together.
ScarletWitch · 26-30, F
[@1154134,OldMan70] disgusting.
OldMan70 · 70-79, M
[@386170,ScarletWitch] Just suggesting that being honest and open will allow things to keep on going. They both love it so much, and her love for them both will open new pathways for all of them. It's now disgusting - it's life and sexual desires being met.
WandererTony · 51-55, M
I dont blame you and I dont want to scold you.
Having said that, its not just about legal age for a relationship. The guy is too young and far better off with his age group. I mean the best friend. Maybe he found in you an easy lay, which he could not in his age group. As a result he could end up with an oedipous complex, and never have a normal married life. Believe me, I know. I wont tell you why. If you are having a guilt ride, so is he. Its his best friend, and what kind of best friend keeps such a secret. At his age, it will be hammering his conscience.
I suggest, try to treat this like a past phase, and say a stern no to any more and move on. Get out while you can.

What your son goes through and what you go though, others are already telling you. I thought I will highlight the friend. He is getting used, but ignored.
Jill1990 · 31-35, F
You’re sharing something nice with another human being. Nothing to feel guilty about. The only concern is how your son will react, and nobody knows him better than you.
JoePourMan · 61-69, M
Just my opinion, you should not tell your son or anyone else about this
Momma101 · 46-50, F
[@1097981,JoePourMan] why this is wrong on so many levels.

They are STILL having sex in HIS bed for two months AND COUNTING.

Does she at least change the sheets? probably not

He deserves to know that he's being disrespected to the highest calibre from the same woman who carried him in her stomach for 9 months and his FAKE FRIEND
JoePourMan · 61-69, M
[@1087180,Momma101] I believe this is totally fake, or a poorly written fantasy at best, that is why I suggested not telling anyone
Momma101 · 46-50, F
[@1097981,JoePourMan] TBH...I know what u mean but in reality this stuff happens more often than people want to believe.

And this is usually how these things happen.
Cantsayno · 51-55, M
I think this is just passion and will probably fizzle out on its own. Have fun and enjoy the moment.
nochocolate5289 · 46-50, F
[@587154,Cantsayno] oh
SpaceJesus · 41-45, M
Hahaha nope. Keepittoyourself
1pebbles · 51-55, FVIP
What would be the purpose of telling your son? You already know what his response would be. The sex with his best friend, you are both consenting adults.... I’d leave it as it is... your son may put two and two together...and figure it out...
Highskirt · M
I'm not saying its right or wrong but how is your boy friends mum going to react. Even better how would you feel if your son was sleeping with his mates mum .so many feelings involved. I do wish you well .and take care
nochocolate5289 · 46-50, F
[@917558,Highskirt] thank you
gregloa · 56-60, M
You should just stop. Now before your son figures it out. Nothing is worth losing your son. Talk to the boy and make it clear it’s over. Both of you need to find someone closer to your age.
dannyppaul · 56-60, M
Alex51 · 70-79, M
Why you want to tell your son?anyway you are not going to stop it.
Alex51 · 70-79, M
[@1205090,nochocolate5289] good stop telling him
But you will continue your relationship with his friend
nochocolate5289 · 46-50, F
[@1213104,Alex51] Im done
Alex51 · 70-79, M
[@1205090,nochocolate5289] you mean you told your son.if so what is his reaction
Ryansgrampy · 70-79, M
Only if you tell him after his friends Mom returns the favor with him. After all, why should you have all the fun?
Why do you need to tell him?
nochocolate5289 · 46-50, F
[@579570,darkknightt] I was grown enough to do what I did so Im grown enough to face the consequences
[@1205090,nochocolate5289] I know but don't you think it would destroy him? Plus are you going to continue fucking his best friend?
nochocolate5289 · 46-50, F
[@579570,darkknightt] no
Majorsite · 61-69, M
I'm pretty much assured Your Son would find it very hot knowing Your doing this for His Friend. I would bet He would be proud of You !
nevergiveup · 61-69, M
it could destroy there friendship as no son would want his best friend fucking his mother
some people don't have any brakes

it's like an impairment
nochocolate5289 · 46-50, F
[@1077581,paperlace] what do you mean??
mrh1972 · MVIP
Well id imagine its not going to end well
nochocolate5289 · 46-50, F
[@459527,mrh1972] why??
mrh1972 · MVIP
[@1205090,nochocolate5289] age difference but more importantly he is your sons son's friend
TonyStark007 · 31-35, M
I don't think you should tell him, itself your personal choice dear 🥰
Powermax · 51-55, M
Don’t tell him, or have you already had the conversation?
Babydoll4life · 18-21, F
if it getting serious i think u should
nochocolate5289 · 46-50, F
Thank you everyone for the advice and suggestions
Saraah · 26-30, F
Why would you do it in your sons bed? That's weird.
Court69 · M
Are you two using protection?
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If you wanna make him sick yeah
Tukudo · 36-40, M
nochocolate5289 · 46-50, F
[@484639,Tukudo] why?
Tukudo · 36-40, M
[@1205090,nochocolate5289] Because you enjoying. If you feel don't want just leave it. But don't tell your son that everything happened.
beefandbroccoli · 26-30, M
Where is the proof
SW User
Keep on doing..
nochocolate5289 · 46-50, F
[@979391,laneserene01] now he flat out ignores me, he won't talk to me. It's been incredibly awkward at home. He won't look at me, won't talk to me, has blocked my number so i can't text him either, and i've overheard him talking to his dad about moving in with him. Also, his friend has been texting me, asking me if i wanted to meet up again but Im not gonna
Doctrble · 46-50, M
PM me I will explain
chris62ca · 56-60, M
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