I Admire Discipline

I've recently come to the conclusion that I am in major need of discipline in my life. I am very hard working and honest and compassionate, but I have no direction and I find it entirely impossible to use my own life as motivation to stay focused on anything.

I understand that a good amount of my lack of motivation may be attributed to some form of depression, but I know for a fact that if I had someone to put me in line and keep me there I would learn a lot about what it takes for me to find motivation.

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lagatta

I'm not sure where you live but there might be some free resources to help you along your journey. Here in Canada, we have what's called a "Red Book" that lists all the resources available. I think it's either attainable as resource at the library or even if you called a crisis line they should have access to one and give you some phone numbers to call. Also have you read the book "The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People". I found it helpful. It states how we should all have a life mission statement and goes through how to write one that is a reflection of you. Having a life mission statement helps to keep me focused. I too have a problems with motivation and indecisiveness. It's partially just my personality. I tend to be very curious and distractible. But I'm finding that if I find something that I'm truly, truly passionate about then I will stick with it. So I think that's part of the equation Also, perhaps if you write down your goals, then all the steps/sub-goals within to achieve them and then have someone to report your progress to help keep you on track. Just some thoughts. Just remember you are still young and figuring it all out. The 20's are still an exploratory stage. It will get easier! Good luck!

akaShaun

What kind of discipline exactly?

You can always discipline yourself :

Take something you love and use daily, make yourself unable to use that item until you do whatever you need to do..

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Holdontothefire · 26-30, M

No it's cool haha. I just find that that "brush it off and start over" isn't something I do. I'll beat myself up about it for about five minutes, realize that that's what I'm doing, then just brush the whole thing off so I don't have to deal with it emotionally.

lagatta

Oh I see. You are hard on yourself! Can't say I haven't been there. lol :( Well, maybe like you suggested you need someone to be an emotional coach. Good luck!

Holdontothefire · 26-30, M

Thank you! I look forward to getting support for myself, no matter where it might come from.

Eeyore122

You have to want it. How badly do you want it? I'm a student teacher... so much of why I do things is for the kids, or for my career.

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Holdontothefire · 26-30, M

Haha I could use a little directness!

Eeyore122

First of all. What is your major, etc? One thing that my therapists taught me that helps is whenever you don't want to do something, say "I don't want to do it-go to class, go to work, get out of bed, do homework, whatever it is- and I'm doing it anyway. Then, Do it. If it helps, keep a tally of when you gave in to your desires and when you followed through. Discuss results w/ therapist. On days you want to hide, make a point to go out with a friend.

Holdontothefire · 26-30, M

I'm going to message you xD

Crb897

I feel like you know what I'm going to say, but God can help you. Maybe start by disciplining yourself to read the word daily. I would start with the proverbs of the day. Has lots of wisdom and understanding. There are 31 chapters so one per day and a lot of the verses are directly relatable to daily living. Motivation for LIFE! :)

profsci

What inspires you?

Holdontothefire · 26-30, M

Kindhearted people and beneficial technical advances. Also small and creative mechanical devices. They get me really worked up haha.

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