I Admire Discipline

I've recently come to the conclusion that I am in major need of discipline in my life. I am very hard working and honest and compassionate, but I have no direction and I find it entirely impossible to use my own life as motivation to stay focused on anything.

I understand that a good amount of my lack of motivation may be attributed to some form of depression, but I know for a fact that if I had someone to put me in line and keep me there I would learn a lot about what it takes for me to find motivation.

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akaShaun

What kind of discipline exactly?

You can always discipline yourself :

Take something you love and use daily, make yourself unable to use that item until you do whatever you need to do..

Holdontothefire · 26-30, M

Emotionally disciplining yourself isn't exactly easy to do haha. I can't lecture myself or be disappointed in myself in a way that leads anywhere but depression.

akaShaun

Ah, I understand that.
What do you actually believe would help emotional discipline?

Holdontothefire · 26-30, M

Having someone support me in the things I need to do with myself. I need someone with a firm hand who I respect to help me understand my good and bad habits. I realize self-discipline is an important thing, but it has proven pretty worthless so far.

lagatta

Discipline is also a skill. It needs practice for those of us that are not naturally inclined towards it. Let's say for example your goal is to exercise. First find something you enjoy doing....for me it's walking briskly in the nearby trails. Then set a realistic goal. For me it's half an hour 5 times a week. When I get off track I just brush it off and start all over again. Or I change up my route or try something different to make it more interesting. But once I start to gain some success and feel happy with the rewards of my discipline it certainly is easier to stick with. Sorry if I'm hijacking your thread. I'll stop writing now! lol

Holdontothefire · 26-30, M

No it's cool haha. I just find that that "brush it off and start over" isn't something I do. I'll beat myself up about it for about five minutes, realize that that's what I'm doing, then just brush the whole thing off so I don't have to deal with it emotionally.

lagatta

Oh I see. You are hard on yourself! Can't say I haven't been there. lol :( Well, maybe like you suggested you need someone to be an emotional coach. Good luck!

Holdontothefire · 26-30, M

Thank you! I look forward to getting support for myself, no matter where it might come from.