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I Am In Counseling

So, today is our first counseling session, and everything I have read about my situation and others like it suggests that couples counseling is a bad idea with abusive relationships. Evidently, it can make the abused feel at fault for the abuses. Well, I stayed, so in some way, I am at fault for enabling this mess. However, I do not feel in any way responsible for his actions. None. But, I do have bad habits that I would like to break. I"m just wondering how long we will continue counseling together. On some level, I think it should be individual - at least until I have an idea of the behaviors I need to rethink and correct. Who knows... maybe this is a good way to start?

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This will be our first session. If I force him out, that will end his relationship with his daughter, and I think as long as he is sincere about wanting to change, I am ok with him moving in that direction. He has pubilcally admitted what he is - on social media - and what he has done. He is taking steps to go through a 24 week training course, steps to educate himself as far as getting a degree, and I have been honest about where this is going. So, my hope is that this can be very adult, he can heal, and he can remain in his daughter's life.