I Am In Counseling

So, today is our first counseling session, and everything I have read about my situation and others like it suggests that couples counseling is a bad idea with abusive relationships. Evidently, it can make the abused feel at fault for the abuses. Well, I stayed, so in some way, I am at fault for enabling this mess. However, I do not feel in any way responsible for his actions. None. But, I do have bad habits that I would like to break. I"m just wondering how long we will continue counseling together. On some level, I think it should be individual - at least until I have an idea of the behaviors I need to rethink and correct. Who knows... maybe this is a good way to start?

SW-User

Moon: Why is that your job? To get him independent I mean?
I am not qualified, of course, to tell you how to handle things.
Just worried, as abusers only stick to things when they think they will get what they want and if he wants you,that is dangerous.
Has the counselor suggested a separation?