I Am In Counseling

So, today is our first counseling session, and everything I have read about my situation and others like it suggests that couples counseling is a bad idea with abusive relationships. Evidently, it can make the abused feel at fault for the abuses. Well, I stayed, so in some way, I am at fault for enabling this mess. However, I do not feel in any way responsible for his actions. None. But, I do have bad habits that I would like to break. I"m just wondering how long we will continue counseling together. On some level, I think it should be individual - at least until I have an idea of the behaviors I need to rethink and correct. Who knows... maybe this is a good way to start?

uncalled4 · 56-60, M

My experience is that things actually get MORE tough at the beginning of counseling, like dust is getting stirred up. It's the opposite of what you'd think. Stay with it. You'll know if it is working, or, sadly, that things are beyond repair.