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why dont my brothers ever ask me over for thanksgiving? my parents are both gone, they dont ask my twin sister either. i know they have it cause when my nieces were little i would get pictures of them sitting around the thanksgiving table, my brother is the only one with a family, the rest of us never got married or had kids, i feel like im missing out on getting to know his wife's family and also my nieces, theyre like strangers to me, they wont call, write or email or facebook, neither will my brothers or his wife, i feel terrible about it like they dont consider me family, i only live a state away so i couldve just bussed it there. have no idea why theyre like this, my friend asks me over but its not the same, so why do they do this, i havent done anything to them to cause this, any ideas? and yes they make good money so getting me a plane ticket wouldnt have been a problem, i see them other times but rarely.
Spokeskitties75 · 46-50, M
Yeah... I kinda have the same relationship sorta... maybe they are just so caught up in their nuclear family they don’t think about asking you guys
NativeOregonian · 51-55
@Spokeskitties75 When family "forgets" family, there is usually some underlying issue.
Spokeskitties75 · 46-50, M
@NativeOregonian oh I agree... somethings up.
Gangstress · 41-45, F
Argh, sorry, I kinda figure my brother will be like this when my parents pas.

Big hugs,I assume you have tried to have a conversation with him?
pearllederman · 61-69, F
@Gangstress no, i wasnt sure if i should ask him about it
Montanaman · M
😔🤗🤗 everyone should have family to come home to for the holidays. 😔🤗🤗💞💞
JupiterDreams · 31-35
It might not be personal. Some families just don't click.
pearllederman · 61-69, F
@JupiterDreams it feels personal
NativeOregonian · 51-55
@JupiterDreams When it comes to family it's always personal.
JupiterDreams · 31-35
@pearllederman Sorry.

@NativeOregonian I guess... I don't fit in with mine and I don't think they do it personally. We're just very different
Pizzanow · 22-25, F
Just call them
pearllederman · 61-69, F
@Pizzanow they dont seem to want to talk to me
xixgun · M
People grow, unfortunately it's sometimes apart. I don't interact with my sisters much. I don't have anything against them, I just don't have anything to say.
SW-User
I think you should reach out and actually talk to him. Not his wife or anyone else, just him.

But to be honest, he sounds like a jerk...
My dear Pearl!! Brothers usually and gradually after making their own families forget about their sisters...

I never go to my brothers' (maybe once a year) but we meet at mom's or they come to see me..

I guess it is their wives who dont like guests ... there is not a day that goes by in which my brothers and I dont call each other to ask how we are...

I guess staying in contact helps a lot..

Do you stay in contact with them??
pearllederman · 61-69, F
@Soossie i wanted to stay in contact with them but they dont
Hopefully they don't think of you as a embarrassment to have around, or have hard feelings about you for some reason. They might just think that you are having dinner with a boyfriend or girlfriend. Or there just so wrapped up in there own little world there's no room for anyone else, mine don't ask me over either, or I should say anymore. I guess they got tired of me saying no
SW-User
Do you and your twin get together?
pearllederman · 61-69, F
@SW-User i saw her back in aug
That does seem really strange, being they're family.
I'm inviting you to MY house for Thanksgiving, or any other time you'd like to visit. 🤗
Butterflykisses24 · 51-55, F
Ask them to you
pearllederman · 61-69, F
@Butterflykisses24 i dont have a family so its just me
Butterflykisses24 · 51-55, F
@pearllederman yes They may like to travel and if you make it known you'd like to be together,maybe they will ask you to them.

 
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