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Please give me ur opinions....... So my boyfriend has a best friend who takes advantage of him but can't see it. So a few months ago my boyfriend moved in with me. We came to an agreement that his friend can come over any night during the week for a few hours and he could spend one night and one day on the weekend with us. We have gotten into spats about him thinking I wasn't being fair. I should let his friend come and go as he pleases. U should know my boyfriend is/was only 22. Am I in the wrong?
melissa001
51-55, F
29 replies 113 views Mar 31, 2019
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SW-User
No you're not in the wrong. Boy toys are great but unless you want to deal with the immaturity that comes with the package, it's better to not allow him to move in and just tap that ass when you get horny.

Btw, it sounds like if you allowed the friend to come over any time, you would have found him suddenly fully moved in one day.
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melissa001 · 51-55, F
@SW-User his friend would have definitely moved in.
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SW-User
@melissa001 sorry you lost your boyfriend but be happy that you stood your ground. I think you dodged a huge bullet.
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melissa001 · 51-55, F
@SW-User thank u, ur probably right.
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Fernie · F
Of course you're not wrong and you must know that. The male brain remains a teen well into his 20's and that is what you are dealing with. When you're a Cougar ( good for you)Ya gotta take the good with the bad...you're his Mom and his GF
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JollyLily · F
@Fernie Exactly this!
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JollyLily · F
Your boyfriend seems to have some growing up to do. He's acting like a teenager who wants to have his way
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hippyjoe1955 · 61-69, M
Sounds like your boyfriend is still a boy and wants to have sleep overs.
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hippyjoe1955 · 61-69, M
@melissa001 Yeah I would tend to agree with you. Oh well you want a man not a boy anyways.
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melissa001 · 51-55, F
He seamed emotionally mature for his age, and I wasn't looking for someone so young, it just happened.
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hippyjoe1955 · 61-69, M
@melissa001 Yeah it happens. No harm no foul.
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Bubbles · 36-40, F
No, that is insane. Having friends is great, but even your agreement is crazy. It seems pretty simple to me, either he hangs out with his friend a normal amount, or he can find a new girlfriend.
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melissa001 · 51-55, F
@Bubbles he chose his friend. He broke up with me.
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Bubbles · 36-40, F
@melissa001 sounds like you win. You should have someone that wants to be with you, not someone who would rather be with his friends
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Ynotjenn · F
Sounds like you’re raising a teenager
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melissa001 · 51-55, F
@Ynotjenn thank u.
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HootyTheNightOwl
Restricting his access to his friend could bite you in the butt if he ultimately chooses him over you.

I speak from experience when I say that fighting over friends can be exhausting for both of you over time and could potentially break you up in the longer term.
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melissa001 · 51-55, F
@HootyTheNightOwl it did about a week ago.
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Stray4life · 26-30, F
@HootyTheNightOwl I was thinking this same thing. If his friend is a big part of his life then you really should except that. It sounds like it's always been that way so you should expect it to change
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Solopleasure · 51-55, M
I don’t think ur wrong at all. Ur boyfriend has to understand that there needs to be boundaries
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melissa001 · 51-55, F
@Solopleasure thank u
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Solopleasure · 51-55, M
Of course. @melissa001
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Niplover16 · 46-50, M
Sounds like he was looking for a party house and someone to foot the bill for him.
You are better off without someone like that
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Stray4life · 26-30, F
No it's both your home and you guys have to negotiate on the terms of your house hold.
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NudistsintheUK · 41-45, M
Your house your rules hun despite the age difference he should respect you
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bijouxbroussard · F
Unfortunately, it’s an example of the immaturity of that age. You’re not wrong, but the boyfriend’s clearly not ready for a committed relationship.
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Katiatavrovich · 31-35, F
You are right 💪
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Melies
Careful.
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