I Hate Kids

@PrivateHell she wouldn't do any of it. She would just tell me to fuck of

@RemovedUsername634280 who is the parent? You or her. No offense, but I think I see the source of the problem.

@PrivateHell the source of the problem is autism. And the fact if I smacked her I would be locked up

@RemovedUsername634280 not buying it. My 14 year old son is mud-to-lower functioning on the spectrum, and has frequent meltdowns, but would never dream of doing anything like this. He was raised to know there are consequences for actions, and we don't use his condition as an excuse, or allow him to.

@PrivateHell not every kid is the same.

@RemovedUsername634280 no they aren't. But every kid can be taught. Some just take more time, effort and patience than others. If you give a child with autism an inch, they don't take a mile, they take a whole lightyear. It's rough, but but being a parent is far more important than being a buddy.

I'm not trying to be an ass, or be mean here, just real. The problem won't fix itself, and she isn't going to fix it. Someone has to step up and take charge. If it isn't you, it's going to be her.

@PrivateHell I have stern rules I'm my home and one of the things I don't allow is talking back, walking the streets with friends or eating out of the fridge without asking being as though I pay for all the food. But when she gets angry alk rules go out of the windows.

@PrivateHell when she is on a rampage there is no talking. That is why I am taking charge of the situation and telling social services she has to go and if they won't take her then ill find my own foster family to take her either way I'm done.

@RemovedUsername634280 when she gets angry is when the rules need to be at their strictest.

My son has meltdowns, so severe, I back off and allow him to cool down (as long as he isn't hurting anyone or damaging anything). When he is calm, I sit him down, explain what he did wrong, and issue a punishment. You have to be consistent, and not let it slide, especially with autism. Once they believe there is a chance you won't follow through, your authority goes right out the window, and it's harder to get it back.

@PrivateHell I have 2 with autism. And not enough strength.

@RemovedUsername634280 and that will help her how? She's a child, not a paper plate you can throw away when you're done. She needs structure, guidance and discipline from a parent tgat loves her enough to want to help her succeed in life.

@PrivateHell the love isn't enough to sustain this anymore.

@RemovedUsername634280 Let social services take her if you must, but please don't choose someone to take over. You're not in the right mindset to be able to choose wisely.
She may need a break from you as well. You sound so overwhelmed. She can sense that and plays off of it. You already stated you raised an older sibling with autism. Maybe you just can't handle it anymore and she is acting the way she does because she knows this.

@RemovedUsername634280 2 with autism is a very big challenge 😣

@SomeMichGuy near impossible