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I Dont Like Seeing People Being Left Out

I'm usually someone being left out. So I know how it feels. My family are very out spoken. I can start sentences and stop and it won't be noticed.
oneiric13
As I'm going through the groups this thing recommends me and I like to read the stories (to feel that there's real people, everybody goes walking with a mask daily and you don't feel them real, haha) I'm seeing your story and I felt compelled to answer you (as it used to happen the same to me when I was younger).
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So is just with your family or in any life sphere? because I've came to the conclusion that when one feels insecure (even if we read it as "respectful" most won't) most people instead of trying to be more empathic and to listen us, instead they either look into another side and ignore us or attack us (yeah a crappy answer, but it's instinctive, matter in fact if you ask them they will deny it as they're not even aware of what they do, as it's not a conscious answer); so have you thought that perhaps you should try to work more on your voice, like yeah, practice in front of mirror (it doesn't matter if you feel ridiculous, c'mon do it! we all are ridiculous sometimes! some just don't want to accept it, haha!) and talk to yourself, tell yourself your idea and see your gestures, your voice tone, or tape yourself and then listen it and try to recognize what that voice transmits you, then try to improve it, until you find "the secure voice", (same with the mirror exercise: yeah! like if you were studying for a character!) and find the "secure you", don't try to be "secure as the others", but more confident in yourself, like if they laugh! so what? do you think they haven't said laughable things? really! laugh of yourself, find some humour on it, eventually when the grade of security in who you're improves, the others will start to feel it too, to pay attention; but it's not they who have to work on them (or perhaps they do! but we have no power over others, only over ourselves) it's you who have to work on you; to say: "yes, this is my voice, this are my ideas, and if I'm right or wrong, well that'll be ok".
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And well, if it's just your family, well families are really messy, as there's a cumulous of people all with different energies/experiences/patterns of thought and they can either crash or work in "mass reactions" and well, if each one of their members is not well balanced in the end they'll affect the others (even if some like to deny it), so sincerely I just wish you the best, I've sort of been there (although for different reasons).
My best wishes for you. Please take care. I trust you can. Good vibes.
laylonolonger
...Somewhere there's a place... There's a place where we belong...

 
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