I Am Tired Of All The Slut-Shaming
Something happened yesterday that I want to put before the community. I apologize if this story ends up being a bit of a rant, but I was pretty pissed last night. So here goes...
I was chatting with a "much older gentleman" on here and we've been chatting for some time now. He seems okay. We've been chatting about past experiences for us both, including but not only sexy ones.
Last night's chat got more sexy than usual and then in the midst of it, he called me a slut. I kinda freaked a bit. I've been called that once before by an ex-bf and didn't take it too well then either. Anyway, last night, so yeah I ended the chat and just went to sleep.
This morning I told him, [b]"Please don't ever call me a slut again. I really didn't like that at all."[/b]
No apology, barely a response at all and he starts chatting like nothing happened. He said it was a term of endearment in the BDSM world (a world we have never discussed even remotely).
So I said, [b]"Do not ever call me a slut again. Ever. I don't care how it's used by other people."[/b]
His response was basically, you already asked and I already answered. Again, no apology. And he said he was moving on.
So I said, [b]"I haven't quite moved on. I just need a little time to get over that. Calling me a slut was kinda a nuclear bomb. I thought we were friends."[/b]
Again no apology and he starts chatting like nothing is going on and sends me a big long story in the chat which I can't even look at right now.
So I say, [b]"Please stop and just give me a little time, ok."[/b]
To which he responds, [b]Honestly, let's just say goodbye and good luck."[/b]
I'm kinda stunned to be honest. And I fully admit that maybe it's me here. Maybe girls on here like being called sluts. Idk.
So to the girls on SW ... Would you accept being called a slut in a private chat? Would you think it was something like calling you honey or sweetie or baby (terms of endearment)?? Am I just way too out of touch with the norms on here?
I'll respond to any comments like usual, but I really want to hear from girls. Thanks!
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UPDATE: @SW-User Commented below that he was the guy I was talking about in this story and I just want everyone to know that he apologized to me and things are resolved. Thanks for all your comments.
I was chatting with a "much older gentleman" on here and we've been chatting for some time now. He seems okay. We've been chatting about past experiences for us both, including but not only sexy ones.
Last night's chat got more sexy than usual and then in the midst of it, he called me a slut. I kinda freaked a bit. I've been called that once before by an ex-bf and didn't take it too well then either. Anyway, last night, so yeah I ended the chat and just went to sleep.
This morning I told him, [b]"Please don't ever call me a slut again. I really didn't like that at all."[/b]
No apology, barely a response at all and he starts chatting like nothing happened. He said it was a term of endearment in the BDSM world (a world we have never discussed even remotely).
So I said, [b]"Do not ever call me a slut again. Ever. I don't care how it's used by other people."[/b]
His response was basically, you already asked and I already answered. Again, no apology. And he said he was moving on.
So I said, [b]"I haven't quite moved on. I just need a little time to get over that. Calling me a slut was kinda a nuclear bomb. I thought we were friends."[/b]
Again no apology and he starts chatting like nothing is going on and sends me a big long story in the chat which I can't even look at right now.
So I say, [b]"Please stop and just give me a little time, ok."[/b]
To which he responds, [b]Honestly, let's just say goodbye and good luck."[/b]
I'm kinda stunned to be honest. And I fully admit that maybe it's me here. Maybe girls on here like being called sluts. Idk.
So to the girls on SW ... Would you accept being called a slut in a private chat? Would you think it was something like calling you honey or sweetie or baby (terms of endearment)?? Am I just way too out of touch with the norms on here?
I'll respond to any comments like usual, but I really want to hear from girls. Thanks!
[sep][sep][sep]
UPDATE: @SW-User Commented below that he was the guy I was talking about in this story and I just want everyone to know that he apologized to me and things are resolved. Thanks for all your comments.
