I Am The Other Woman

@Justenjoyit Because the man who has a woman on the side has vows and precepts in front of his wife, family, God to not look outside. The other woman, presuming she's single, does not.

@CopperCicada well When I was single, I must have gone out with over 10 married women, women are just more discreet about it 😊

@Justenjoyit Well, in that case I'd put the primary blame on the married woman.

@Justenjoyit why did you go out knowingly with married women. That isn't anything to be proud of...

@Mikemcneil why not I have no problems with it

@Justenjoyit so you condone adultery?

@Mikemcneil people have suffered in life, and how they deal with it, I am not one to judge.😊

@Justenjoyit so that'd be a yes then? You would happily sleep with a married woman behind her husbands back?

@Mikemcneil obviously you have never suffered in life, or you would have a lot more understanding towards people😊

What has suffering got to do with adultery?

@Mikemcneil usally it makes you a lot more understanding to why people do the things they do

So you dated those married women to relieve their suffering?

@Mikemcneil lol I wish I could give you some understanding 😊

I'd prefer understanding to suffering.

@Justenjoyit to some sense i would agree with you. understanding people's suffering helps understand their choices. i also tempers judgement.

i guess for me this is somewhat personal. my wife had an affair during our marriage. i was not available because i was studying for comps in graduate school. the pretext was just as you say. she was suffering because i was not available for a period of some months. and i guess it's personal as i have had female friends at different times in my life whom i've loved dearly. but they were not available.

i guess i really don't see how participating in infidelity was really compassionate for my wife. and i never saw how doing the same with these dear friends that i loved would have been compassionate either.