I Am The Other Woman

@kokopuffy we don't need to be negative, you do nego each day, you give you nego, you do it to you. The wife is still the wife,

You are still the nego one hanging on.....

@TotalMiss He's here everyday to let her out and feed her while I'm at work. We discuss training strategies so we are on the same page. He's dealt with my pets for 9 years, letting them out, feeding them, interacting with them.
So now, we are doing it together from puppyhood and beyond. I was at a concert last night and he came by around 9pm to let her out.
While he was here today he did some chores, let them out (still have a senior dog as well), vacuumed, dealt with a cat issue. He doesn't need to live here to be involved.
He is my family.

@SoFine Wtf is nego? I have no clue what you are trying to say. But that's not unusual.

@kokopuffy you know very truly what nego is, you live it each day. The wife is still the wife, after all this time. You get a pet dog and she has Dave.

@SoFineNope, still clue what you're babbling on about. If its code I didn't get the memo and honestly don't give a shit.

But maybe you should ask the wife where she was while her son was having invasive medical procedures done because she certainly wasn't the one keeping Dave company while he waited in the hospital for him come out of the anesthesia. But I was there for him.
What kind of woman let's her child go through something like that and go to work, instead of supporting him?

Oh ya, the prize of a wife. Gag.

I bet she'll pass on the MRI as well. But I won't.

@kokopuffy still talking about the wife. Still going over tbe same stuff. If she is so bad, then why is she still tbe wife?

@TotalMiss Really? Your teen has an invasive procedure, first time ever under anesthesia, he's scared and worried and you're not there or involved on any of the prep or follow up appts?

It wasn't a doctors office it was in a hospital. We were in the post op waiting room.

His dads never dealt with anything like this before, he was uncomfortable being left there on his own to deal with every aspect of what needed to be done.

I've been in more waiting rooms with my Sotos Syndrome child than I can count. I know what it's like to be a married single parent. Dave has done the same for me when I was in emergency with my son and daughter.

I was just returning the support I've received. That's what partners do.

@SoFine Your so smart..you know so much..you tell me.

@kokopuffy you are the babble mouth, you have to run down Lana, yet Lana is still with Dave?

Lana and Dave still a couple, with side-car Deb as tbe side-car .......

@TotalMiss Actually, he was the only one involved in the pre-op appointments, the prep and the actual procedure. Getting a teen who thinks he's dying to prep for a double scoping is an emotional journey he had to deal with alone. It was his first time dealing with any of that kind of thing, and he was left to do it alone with no input or help from her. You're right, he did feel uncomfortable with the whole thing.. which is why he needed someone to lean on. Which is exactly what he got, because he knew where to go for it since it wasn't at home.

@SoFine It's blabber mouth.. not babble mouth.

@kokopuffy you are the one to babble on Lana, you are her mouth peace. Does she pay you to babble so much? Or a free service ...

@SoFine 25 years of wedded bliss.. 9 of which Dave has spent with me because things are going so well and he's so darn happy at home.

@TotalMiss Miss,ha ha your name says it all MISS.

@kokopuffy until you're faced with it,you don't understand it,just let them talk. Everybody says get out! get out! If only it was that easy

@TotalMiss Think what you want.. 10 years together isn't going to change because of what you think.

@Tonia3 Not a matter of it not being easy to get out. I simply don't want too. I have no reason too. I'm happy, he's happy, no reason to ever change that.

@TotalMiss You really have no clue. I'm not married, haven't been for 8 years now.

Everyone knows I have a man in my life and exactly who he is. They always have, since day one, he's no secret. When I say, Dave fixed my computer, or Dave installed and rewired my new hot water tank to my bff or my sister or my kids, they know exactly who I am talking about.

We have 100% support of everyone who knows us.. because they know us, unlike you. Imagine that, people who actually know the people involved having an opinion contrary to yours. Boggles the mind doesn't it.

He wasn't complaining about her lack of support for her son, I was. I can't imagine having a child in the hospital for tests and not being there. No matter. what. I would quit jobs before letting my child think I wasn't there for her and I have.

And he is doing quite well since keeping his cash away from her draining ways, but thanks for your concern about his finances.

How on earth can you quantify someone else's level of happiness? That really is an individual thing that no one but that person can attest to, don't you think? There are plenty of miserable couples who put on a happy face to the outside world. Shouldn't be a big surprise that there are happy couples who keep it to themselves.