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I Support Body Positivity

I always wonder why we need a body positive reminder. When did we on mass feel this way? are we conditioned to feel bad about ourselves so we can spend more on beauty products?

But who are we comparing ourselves to? A distorted reality that's what.

I enjoy photography as a hobby, hence my username of Shutterbug. I've have had a shot quite a few models in the last few years and i will tell you, they have all the insecurities and hang ups as everyone else. Trust me i have heard them all.

But a model has the advantage of a hair and make up artist, stylist, have been coached, and then you have the photographer and retoucher!

A good make up artist will bring out the real beauty in someone, without overdoing. Its amazing what they can achieve. I try to get one on board for all shoots where i can.

Photographer knows the right light, angles, depth of field to maximise the look. Then the retouching (photoshop). I can remove or reduce blemishes, wrinkles, veins, lines, soften lips, fix red eyes, remove grey hairs, remove tan lines, fix skin colour, remove skin redness, fix dry skin, brighten eyes, and though i don't do it often make sight adjustments to body shapes. And all still looks fully natural!

So when you look at your mirror selfies, don't compare yourself with a model, they have had a lot of help from a lot of people! :)

Ok we have snapchat filters now. And yes they can make your skin look smoother, your eyes brighter with the added benefit of dog ears, but its fake as.

So don't compare yourself with the distorted reality. Just love yourself and enjoy!

But if you ever do have the chance do a shoot, the full treatment, do it! You wont regret it!
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I enjoyed your post and it's true with all the technology, cosmetics and beauty products, one can achieve almost absolute perfection in front of a camera.. Today's standards have had an adverse effect on youth.

Really sad when you stop and think of it. Were all different shapes, sizes and heights. Kids end up with distorted views of their appearance because of social media and people in the fashion industry saying you've got to look a certain way, primarily thin.

I used to be almost ashamed of having curves. My friends in school didn't develop as quickly as I did and I was different because how I looked. Guys would tease me unmercifully and girls were jealous.

I've seen too many kids go to CHEO to the eating disorders clinic because of their self image. Acceptance is the key and when people can learn to embrace who they are and realize that they're all kinds of beauty, thats the objective to being happy with yourself and loving who you are.
Shutterbug · 56-60, M
@sensualbeauty1 thank you for reading.

How crazy is that. You have some of the best curves around.

But teenage years can be the worse. That's when we develop, at our most we will be influenced by the dumbest things said. And teenagers today are copping it 24/7.

And teasing was just how we flirted I think.

When they say beauty standards have changed over the year, like who is setting them? Is there a committee? It's just so silly when you think about it!
@Shutterbug Thank you, you're always so kind. I'm not sure who sets the standards today. Kids are very impressionable and seem to be affected and influenced by everything around them. Social media and whoever is the flavour of the week or month can initiate that as well. My Mom had an expression when I was growing up " Monkey see, monkey do." It's still the same I guess unfortunately.
Shutterbug · 56-60, M
@sensualbeauty1 impressionable....that's the word I was looking for. Hadn't had my coffee then.

I am glad we missed all that.
@Shutterbug Yes I was too busy going to the beach everyday as a kid, taking swimming lessons and playing in the sand. Didn't have time nor the inclination to worry about my looks or body. The boys did enough looking and pulling on my braids. 😊