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I Will Not Be Involved With Toxic People

Extract from the book by Ben Stein : How to ruin your life.

TREAT THE PEOPLE WHO ARE BAD TO YOU WELL.
That's right. They'll soon change and be really,really good to you. Maybe.But whether they do or not,lets be honest about this: Some weird urge in you tells you to knuckle under and treat the people who are bad to you REALLY well. In some way you can't quite explain right now,the people who treat you like dirt will greatly enrich your life somewhere down the road if you just treat them really nicely,preferably ignoring those who were good to you in the process.
The gal who two timed you when you were madly in love with her? Buy her jewelry. The agent who promised you he'd get your deal done and then slept on the job? Forget about it. He'll be really useful to you one day,so give him a flat screen colour TV. Treating the real creeps in your life gives you a lot of satisfaction and is actually a stress reliever. So keep doing it. It will pay off immensely,in the way that allowing yourself to be dumped on by bad people always does!
This is a mystery,but it's a good mystery: When you treat people who show you contempt with nothing but respect....You'll find that you will end up being a happy guy or doll. Someday.
Ben Stein.

I must say that I have been guilty of that myself,coming from a family of bullies and thinking,hoping that if I was really nice to them they would quit being trolls and start showing me some affection,well, it never happened, the more you try to please,the less respect you'll get and sadly you carry that attitude out in the big wide world where you soon become the target off bullies and confidence tricksters.
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WindSylph
Oh B... I feel the energy of what you're saying. Wow! For so much of my life I was a pleaser (thinking I was being kind) and I agree, trying to please unhappy, mean types just doesn’t work. So here's my two cents (for what it's worth)... I don't think kindness of heart is ever wrong. I believe our souls ache to be kind and to experience kindness. And I believe the way to accomplish this is to be true to self—honor self; that holding self in high regard is the ultimate kindness to self, and to all. From this, other kindnesses follow. It doesn't mean bullies won't bully. It means their bullying really can't touch us or erode how we feel about ourselves—not really. Kindness... to self, first. It’s a fabulous way to experience, and then role model what the heart and soul ache for... wholeness.


PS: I have experienced you as exceptionally kind. Thank you! Soft breezes to you, my friend!