Is she truly ready for a proposal? Will I regret making such a step?

Her parents asking me why is it that I haven't proposed to their daughter and if I'm just wasting years of her life.

We've been together for 3yrs and it's been some good time we had but I can't help but think how many times she got angry and cut me off for the silliest reasons. This girl got pregnant and terminated it because she was trying to "get back at me" for going on that work trip with my female boss. I can't talk to a female or even laugh with a coworker of the opposite sex. I love her like crazy I really do but I don't want to get myself in a trap either.

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JaggedLittlePill · 46-50, F

Then you aren't only wasting years of her life but also years of your own life. You should have dropped her like a hot potato when she terminated a pregnancy as payback. That is the biggest red flag.

JaggedLittlePill · 46-50, F

I actually wonder if she has proof of this. I'd venture to guess it is a lie if there is no proof.
Also the jealousy ...big red flags.

She is manipulative. This won't change.

Indifferent · 36-40, M

@JaggedLittlePill I had proof of the pregnancy because we went to the doctors appointment together and got confirmation. I had to go on my work trip and she was telling me that I'd regret it if I went. I broke it off then but went back months after but it was still the same BS with her.

JaggedLittlePill · 46-50, F

@Indifferent That is good then. I just think she has shown you that she is capable of manipulative behavior and these things take years of work to change and require the person to accept their own behavior before they can even attempt to change it.

JaggedLittlePill · 46-50, F

@Indifferent I think your apprehension is your own body and mind telling you that it is not the right thing.

Indifferent · 36-40, M

@JaggedLittlePill sighhhhh yup yup. I can't continue like this