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I Try Not To Bother Others With My Problems

I usually keep things to myself. I don't like to bother people with my problems because I know they already got their own. I don't like to post stories about my personal life because I feel like people would respond to them trying to comfort me and that makes me feel like a burden and like I'm wasting their time. I can't explain how intense this feeling is, it's so strange lol.

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persistentone22 · M

@originalme, I was like you my whole life. I was high energy, high competence, and high achievement. I felt like giving my problems to others was pointless. About 2.5 years ago I got really sick and stayed sick this whole time. Now they believe it is an environmental illness, and I'm hoping when I address the environment that I will get at least some of my life back.

What I want to say is that during that illness I desperately needed the help of other people, and for the first time in my life, I asked for help. I am here to tell you that not only did no one help but actually people treated me worse because of my issues. I suffered enormous betrayal by people who I was there for repeatedly.

The other side of this is that usually when I try to help people who appear to need it, they often see that as a sign of weakness, not strength. You pretty much cannot win on either side of this coin.

All of that is to reinforce the idea that sharing problems is usually pointless. The world is enormously cold and selfish. Sad.