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Have you ever forgiven someone for cheating?

summersong · F
Forgiven, yes. Trusted again? Nope.
TexChik · F
Actually yes . I let my ptsd take control and I was horrible to my husband for a couple months and he left me ! Then he took up with a beautiful blonde . I couldn’t blame him... I pushed him away ...but seeing that happened sobered me up quick and I fought for him and won ! He of course feels horrible about it all these years later .., but that was on me
@TexChik sad but great ending! 👍🏻
@TexChik wow, that sounds like you guys really have a deep love for eachother 🥰
TexChik · F
@peachesncream inspite of me ... we do . I have never come close to allowing things to fall apart like I did then. Both of my parents passed that year and I just didn’t handle it well
Budwick · 70-79, M
No. And Biden will not be the first.
sassypants · 36-40, F
One time I forgave him and then it happened again. That's why I have trust issues.
@sassypants 😔💔
FreeSpirit1 · 51-55, F
After I banged his brother I forgave him 🤣
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@FreeSpirit1 hahaha omg
Shpiders · 22-25
I've never been faced with that situation but I doubt I'd be able to
No. Only happened in one relationship. I could never forgive such a heinous thing. Especially when done repeatedly. If one has to cheat, then leave the relationship. Don't pretend to be part of a relationship if you are not man enough to be loyal.
@PoetryNEmotion .. or woman enough
@Stillwaiting True. I am just speaking from my experience.
exexec · 61-69, C
@exexec do you mind me asking why?
CanadianTraveller · 56-60, M
@exexec Me to, twice!
MistahJ · 31-35, M
It truly depends on the person and circumstances. At this stage in my life, I could see myself eventually forgiving the s/o down the line, but never trust them again.

It’s hard for some people to open up and be themselves around people, share their hardships and allow themselves to be vulnerable around an s/o and for someone to betray that trust? One fleeting moment of a crush/lust to crumble all of that? I don’t know, man. It’s just plain cruel and selfish. No coming back from that for me.
Magenta · F
Hmm don't think I've ever been cheated on. But I believe I could, we are all tempted.
Animalvan · 56-60, M
@Magenta we are all tempted sometimes in life
Iwillwait · M
Yes, and it was the start of a series of more cheating.
deadgerbil · 22-25
Never been in that situation, but I highly doubt I would
Rambler · M
Yes but only when I didn't care any more
Mmiker · 46-50, M
I always took the blame for cheating. I have never cheated but I understand that while cheating is terrible on the trust end there’s also a part of me that hasn’t supplied enough in our relationship that had her search elsewhere. Thankfully after two times I was more aware and conscious
Picklebobble2 · 56-60, M
Nope.
That’s my deal breaker
It was headed that way and was already there emotionally. More counseling, after years of it before. Where we have always been .. I take responsibility for my part in our issues .. but not her, not to this day.

Should have left the day I found out. I'd be done with alimony soon and able to live free.
Yes. But I ended the relationship.
LadyJ · F
Nope..I'm not the forgiving type
Isthisit · F
My boyfriend left me after a fight we had and was away for like maybe three weeks - he ended up coming back to me but told me that he slept with his ex when we were apart. I forgave him. Am I stupid or what? Maybe it's not cheating if we were 'having a break'?....
SW-User
@btchstfu why?
AuRevoir · 36-40, M
I learned a hard lesson from it all about why it’s important to forgive.. truly forgive.. because I didn’t the first time around..
@AuRevoir what brought you the change of heart? 🤔
AuRevoir · 36-40, M
@peachesncream nothing brought it.. I just had said I had forgiven without realizing that I hadn’t.. that I never even processed the information properly.. I ended up having things eat away at me and cause me to hurt everyone..

It still haunts me at times..
Yulianna · 22-25, F
the occasion has never arisen, as far as i am aware... though i am pretty sure that i would not forgive.
KA9ha · 31-35, M
i may forgive at that time,,,but never trust him again from my heart..
Johnblackthorn · 56-60, M
Yes, because I knew we could make it work and we had young children.
dale74 · M
kind of but never fully trusted them again
@dale74 that would be the hardest part depending on how they cheat. Trusting. If it was a heat of the moment drunk hook up it would be easier to forgive than if they're having a affair.
Reflection2 · 41-45, M
Nope and this relationship chapter is closed for me, forever.
No... I'm very lucky.... no one has cheated on me....
CanadianTraveller · 56-60, M
Yes I did: once then again, but not the third time.
olderuncle944 · 70-79, M
yes several times then it wasent worth it
In relationships?

I never had one.
SW-User
No. I dont like sloppy seconds. 😖
DrSunnyTheSkeptic · 26-30, M
I wouldn't if it ever happened to me.
hunkalove · 61-69, M
Yeah. Not very important.
Niburu · 51-55, M
I got divorced, so no
vetguy1991 · 51-55, M
Yes I have
SW-User
Forgive them? Sure. I wouldn't have anything to do with them after tho.

"Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me".
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