I Pretend To Be Someone I'M Not I sometimes feel like I'm pretending to be someone I'm not in...

Sounds like pretending isn't working out so well so what do you have to lose by being yourself? Better to be alone than end up in a crowd of people like you've described. But I seriously doubt you'll be alone. Being yourself usually ends up attracting the right people who'll admire you for it.

Fernie · F

Ya just got to grow some ovaries girl! Not defending yourself is toxic to your life. Are you afraid they'll get mad at you? TOUGH! That will be THEIR issues...not yours...speaking your truth is as important as oxygen

LovelyMe · F

Fear of being alone and unaccepted is powerful. If you think about it, you are already alone. You have ostracized and compromised who you are and you are miserable. Your identity and self-esteem are suffering. Go do something you love and live your truth.

Itsmrsockmonkey · M

Your won't end up alone. You'll start being with the right people for you. Trust your inner self. Be you..not everyone is the same so find the right kind of people for you

SW-User

Just be yourself.. I’m a loner too but I prefer being myself than something fake

canusernamebemyusername · M

Do you want to talk. It sounds like you are in a complicated situation and could use someone to talk to.

QuietEd2019 · 31-35, M

Wanting to please others and give a good sense of opinion about yourself is natural I think I certainly always try to be good in eyes of family and friends etc career bosses... also hate most the feeling of if I have let someone down.
Difficult as I know it is do not lose yourself and do not try to be someone you are not just to please someone who does not deserve you unless they love and appreciate you for who you are naturally and for everything you are

OlderDude · 61-69, M

Heres the thing, if you always put others first, and you last, others will pick up on where you place yourself on the list of importance.
You have to realize that you are just as valid and important as anyone else. Like, why would you not be?
When you understand that you are just as important as anyone else,others will get that feeling as well.
Put yourself first, be who you are and if others cant appreciate that, then you dont need them in your life anyways

ExperienceDLT · M

Don't ever pretend to be someone you are not to please others of they do not appreciate you for who you really are they are not worthy friends anyways

Jogadnbyt

Aww you are ok mate, sure your a lovely.person who always thinks of others, which is great, but you can look after no 1 sometimes!

ron122 · 41-45, M

From reading your post you sound pretty sweet. I'm sure if you just be yourself people will want to be with you

HifromJim · M

Be yourself, give yourself time, you are entitled to be happy.

Withintent · M

Sometimes alone is better. 😏