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I Feel Uncomfortable

Because I'm a male over 50. Now don't get me wrong, I've fought to get to this age and I'm working on more. But here's why I feel uncomfortable. It's difficult to make friends online when you're an older male, in a lot of cases. I've never been close to my male friends and have always felt a closer connection to women.

But online, it feels like and I may be wrong, that if you're over 50, single and male and you talk to women, a lot think you're out for one thing and one thing only. So, I tend not to offer friendships on here or online a lot, leaving it to the other to make that move. That way they don't feel pressured by some old perv. lol

I'm a gamer, I tend to write WAY too long of entries and my opinions aren't always liked, but I try to understand others points of views, I try not to judge anyone and I do like making connections. No, this isn't a pity me, offer me friendship ploy, it's more like a "I need to get it off my chest" semi-rant.

For any who have read this, thanks.
SW-User
Okay I'm a bit late to the party but I'm going to reply anyway 😄

Yes there are some who are there for one thing and one thing only but the majority of them are under 40. At least, that's my experience. In fact the worst pervs I've encountered were around my age.

"Older" people (45 y.o, 50 y.o or over) are normally more mature but I met some who weren't. At all 🤦‍♀️

You know what they say: age is just a number 🙂 I personally don't care about a man's age, I care about if he respects me or not. I love gentlemen.
MrPerditus1 · 61-69, M
@SW-User :) I suppose it is just me feeling that at my age, messaging some woman younger to talk, might seem like I might be out for more, which I guess is me projecting my own worries onto it. But you're right, age is but a number and it's how you act and treat others that should be looked at.

I have always tried to conduct myself as a gentleman, that's what I was taught from an early age.

Thank you for taking the time to comment. :D
SW-User
@MrPerditus1 Some women will find an older man messaging them suspicious, others not. I'd say don't worry too much. 😉

And yes gentlemen are the best. ❤️
p.s: You're welcome!
Ballora · 26-30, F
From my experience, men over 50 are alot more easier 2 talk 2
MrPerditus1 · 61-69, M
@Ballora Well I'm happy to hear that. :)
I know the most engaging men over 50 here. I don't think they are here for one thing only. Some are available and looking, yes. I also find they are funny, loving, intelligent, and a whole host of other qualities. I think you are doing this the right way. You are working on you until you are ready for being with someone else. Bravo, Perditus. Let us know how it goes.
MrPerditus1 · 61-69, M
@PoetryNEmotion Thank you for those words, all I can do is try. Sounds so simple, but that's all any of us can do.
SW-User
My experience online is the few people I chat to regularly online, who I have great conversations with are men over 50 ☺
MrPerditus1 · 61-69, M
I'm patient and not a pushy person. I can wait for those that want to make friends or just chat. I use to be on EP, so I know how it can be. I'm fairly new to SW though, so starting out from scratch again. Not even sure how to follow people or add them as friends when the time comes. LOL
SW-User
@MrPerditus1 i was on ep in the early days. Here, however not quite the same. Well, I am always happy to chat, just be warned small talk not my strong point, I ramble on. ☺
MrPerditus1 · 61-69, M
@SW-User It's great meeting you and as for the ramble? I tend to write mini-novels so go for it. May I add you?
JerseyGal · 51-55, F
I've always been closer to men my entire life.
Not all think men are out to get just one thing. Yes, some are, as I've seen some women are.
Thankful for some great friends I've made here.
Best wishes to you!
MrPerditus1 · 61-69, M
@JerseyGal Thank you kindly and yes there are great people here, some I've met, including you and others I have yet to meet. Just new and restarting is fun and you're right not all are out for one thing, but it's the ones that are or just trolling that make it difficult for those that aren't.

Again, thank you for the best wishes.
Butterflykisses24 · 51-55, F
hi nice to meet you
MrPerditus1 · 61-69, M
@Butterflykisses24 Hi, it's a pleasure to meet you as well. :)
Butterflykisses24 · 51-55, F
@MrPerditus1 thank you.Feel free to message me anytime.

 
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