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I Want to Understand Human Behavior

More specifically, possessiveness in relationships.

Whilst trying to assist a client at the office yesterday, I was taken by surprise when his fiance felt a little threatened by me for no apparent reason. What seemed like a very casual conversation quickly turned awkward. Then it got me thinking how my husband used to show such possessiveness over me. There were times when his petty jealousy would make me feel like I was some type of possession to him rather than his partner. Most of our arguments always led to him suspecting me, or accusing me with other men.
What brings about such insecurities in a relationship? What is one partner doing wrong that surfaces such feelings? Although being single can be hard at times, I wouldn't have things any other way. I hate having to answer to anyone, and spend my days fighting off baseless accusations.

I enjoy being independent on all levels.

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WildHeart · 46-50, F

Lovely - I definitely had some odd moments here and there that made me jealous but I would never allow my feelings to make him feel as if he has done something wrong. There were fights that would leave me questioning my behavior, how unfair is that? Being insecure is my problem to deal with, it is wrong to pass blame. Whilst with him I was not allowed to go places without him accompanying me, I mean come on? I loved this man but one thing that I could never come to terms with is the way his mind worked. I eventually decided that, just maybe he was accusing me of stuff he himself was capable off.