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I Want to Understand Human Behavior

More specifically, possessiveness in relationships.

Whilst trying to assist a client at the office yesterday, I was taken by surprise when his fiance felt a little threatened by me for no apparent reason. What seemed like a very casual conversation quickly turned awkward. Then it got me thinking how my husband used to show such possessiveness over me. There were times when his petty jealousy would make me feel like I was some type of possession to him rather than his partner. Most of our arguments always led to him suspecting me, or accusing me with other men.
What brings about such insecurities in a relationship? What is one partner doing wrong that surfaces such feelings? Although being single can be hard at times, I wouldn't have things any other way. I hate having to answer to anyone, and spend my days fighting off baseless accusations.

I enjoy being independent on all levels.
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VioletRayne · 36-40, F
Not very much bothers me. I think you don't understand it because you see it as someone looking at you like a possession. I see it as caring. This person wanted you in their lives so much that the thought of someone swaying your affections bothered them. It bothered them to the point that they felt the need to let others know that you were someone extremely special to them. I used to love it when my ex-fiance would get all aggressively affectionate when we were around other guys. It let me know that I was special to him and he didn't mind letting others know that he wouldn't let me go without a fight. Its not insecurities. People have differing views on beauty and attraction. Anyone can be dumped or cheated on. Its arrogant to think oh I'm the greatest so I don't have to worry about being dumped or cheated on. Its human nature to worry and what you call possessiveness is an outward show of that worry.