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I Am Always Sad When An EP Friend Leaves

And it's always hard when it happens with no explanation, or even a goodbye. Not that he owed me anything, he didn't. Apparently, my newest EP friend, JakeV101, decided to delete his account yesterday. He had just added me a couple of days before, and after viewing his stories I thought he seemed like a really sweet guy. We chatted a little bit yesterday morning, and it was nice. Then, after a busy day, I finally got the chance to check and see what my friends on EP had been up to while I had been away. And where Jake's name had been in my private messages, it said "deleted."

There was nothing in any of his stories that anyone could possibly have found offensive. So there was no reason for anyone to have reported him. I can only conclude that he must have been very unhappy here on EP and decided that it just wasn't worth his time. When I looked at the last couple of stories that he had posted, I saw that he hadn't received any supportive or helpful responses. In fact, someone misconstrued something that he had said and told him that he was being rude when he wasn't being rude at all. I was sorry that I wasn't there to give him a more supportive response.

I wish that people would read people's posts a little more carefully and, if there's something that they don't understand, ask questions first before jumping to negative conclusions about people.

Goodbye, JakeV101. I'm sorry that we didn't have more time to get to know each other. I'm sure that we would have been good friends. And I'm sorry that someone responded so thoughtlessly to your story, and that you didn't get more kind, helpful responses.

I'll miss you, even though I didn't know you very well.
Stereoguy
My wife has a account on here. Her user name is RhodeIslandLady. She writes a lot of Christian posts. Even though she posts on the Christian experiences people would attack her big time and guys would send her pervy pictures. Although she didn't delete her account she rarely comes on anymore. I have had a lot of friends delete their accounts . It always hurts when another one leaves. I don't know why, but EP seems to let the bad people post at will. The first social site I was ever on did that. I asked why and the emailed me back saying the drama these people caused was good for the site. They said it kept it interesting. Sadly they were wrong and six months later the site was dead and everyone gone. I hope that doesn't happen to EP too.
TeresaRudolph71 · 51-55, F
Wow, that is sad. It's too bad that the people running that site didn't realize that drama wasn't good for that site. I'm actually surprised that they told you that, because they were basically admitting that that was what they wanted on their site. And I also hope that the same thing doesn't happen to EP. For now, there seem to be more genuine, decent people here than trolls. But you never know what might happen.
Stereoguy
No you don't. The other site is Blurtit.com you can go take a look if you want. They have users, but no one is ever on. Basically you answer a question and it sends an email to the person and you have to wait for them to log on to answer you. Sadly so many good people have left EP over the last year while bad people are allowed to post at will. One guy came on about six months ago and posted how he thought pedophileism should be taught in school as an alternative lifestyle. EP never pulled the question or banned him. The guy actually stayed on a few hours and calmly defended his position. People like this should be banned from the internet.
TeresaRudolph71 · 51-55, F
I just took a look at the site and also read a little bit about it in Wikipedia. The Wikipedia article said the site used to have a lot more questions than it has now and that many of the questions have been deleted. Also, it said that they eliminated the other types of posts that weren't questions (such as experiences that people had posted about). So they've really whittled things down a lot.


I agree, that post about how the guy thought that pedophilism was a legitimate lifestyle should have been deleted as soon as it was reported, and if he had persisted in posting about that, he should have been banned. It makes me wonder where EP's priorities are. Hopefully we won't see too many more people like that on here (though one is too many).
peteythedog
It happens sometimes, I'm sorry to say. It's happened to me. I didn't know him at all. But, at least you spent a little time with him. I would of loved to of read his stories and comments. 'People come in and out of our lives like busboys, it happens sometimes' to quote Richard Dreyfuss in the movie 'Stand By Me'.

But, you never know, he could reappear again one day. So, be of good cheer, you still have friends here.
TeresaRudolph71 · 51-55, F
Thanks! It looks like he just did!
And you're right, people do come in and out of our lives like busboys.
TeresaRudolph71 · 51-55, F
That was a great movie, by the way, and a great line.
eddiesolds
I would have to say goodbye to everyone I talk to on here that I've gotten to know on here.even though we've never met in person.i just think it's the right thing to do.This sort of makes me sad.i just couldn't walk away! OK ,I think I'll go and cry now,ok! lol! it is really sad though!! Have a nice day everyone!!
TeresaRudolph71 · 51-55, F
Yeah, it was a bit of a shock. And I know I would definitely want to say goodbye to all my friends on here if I had to leave EP too. Fortunately he came back, with a different username. And then he changed his username back to what it was. That was a sad day, though, when I thought he was gone for good.
eddiesolds
I'm sure it was! I'm glad he came back and let you know.
Kim1girl
What a kind, thoughtful perspective! I am sorry Jake departed. I always am a bit sad when "deleted" pops up in place of the name of a friend.
I lost a friend of three years last month- actually the person who was responsible for me becoming active on EP. I will really miss her.
TeresaRudolph71 · 51-55, F
Oh, I'm sorry to hear that. I hope they come back. My story does have a happy ending, because Jake came back soon after I posted this, with a different username. But then he changed his username back to Jake.


But if your friend doesn't come back, I'm sure that she will always remember what a good friend you are to her, as you have been a good friend to me.
tanchel90210
It's happened to me too. People deleting accounts without warning :(. Makes me wonder how reliable EP friends really are sometimes?
TeresaRudolph71 · 51-55, F
Yeah, and it can happen at any time for any reason. Someone gets reported for no good reason, someone is being harassed by someone else on EP, or someone just decides that they don't have time for EP anymore with all of the other stuff going on in their life.


Fortunately, my story has a happy ending, because Jake came back with a different username, and we added each other again. Then he changed his username back. But not everyone is so lucky.
tanchel90210
There was someone here who attacked me personally on one group. I reported it several times but they have not done anything to date. Anyway I blocked the concerned person, because that was the least I could do
TeresaRudolph71 · 51-55, F
It's too bad that they wouldn't do anything. But at least you were able to block them. That was something.
maxshepard34
I wish people were more tolerant nowadays.
TeresaRudolph71 · 51-55, F
I do too. But I have some good news. Jake created a new account and came back on EP, and we friended each other again. He had deleted his old account because he wasn't happy with a lot of the stories that he had posted. Maybe he didn't realize that he could just delete his stories instead of having to delete his account. I was glad to know that someone else hadn't reported him and gotten him kicked off EP. So now he's back and we're chatting again. I guess all's well that ends well. :)
maxshepard34
That's wonderful!
TeresaRudolph71 · 51-55, F
Thanks! Yeah, I was very happy to see him on here again.
iCuriousBabe
He's back.
TeresaRudolph71 · 51-55, F
Oh, really? Is he going by the name ElderScrollsV now?
iCuriousBabe
Yes.
TeresaRudolph71 · 51-55, F
Good! We've just added each other again. :)
pearllederman
i hate it when people i really liked leave too

 
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