I Can Forgive But Never Forget

@Kryptonite

It's not fun, that's for sure. Maybe your mother-in-law can help to lighten your discomfort. And forgiving doesn't mean you have to put yourself in a position to be hurt again. You shouldn't have to stand there and take personal insults. But you shouldn't let them spoil times that you should be enjoying either.

If I understand you correctly that your husband is deceased (sorry), then really you have to decide if you want to bother with his family that much. You can certainly spend time with the ones you get along with and avoid the ones you don't.

It's like that way with my ex-stepdad's family. My two brothers get along with some of them and have attended functions even though my younger brother (as well as I) don't bother at all with our ex-stepdad. He attended both of their weddings; I avoided him at the receptions. Too many bad memories. But that didn't stop me from talking with members of his family I got along with.

Ah god that sounds painful. On the plus side it's a show so shouldn't be too much time for small talk.

@ Silent - Thank you for sharing.

@Saffie - Thank you for the suggestion. I should try it rather than letting my mind wander off to all sort of crazy scenarios.

Unless you are willing to avoid all family functions the rest of your life when they might be present, you eventually will be faced with having to attend something more serious than just a comedy show, such as a wedding or a funeral. Nearly all families have to face issues like this. If you go, just avoid them or engage in as little interaction as possible. Your mother-in-law should be able to control her son from attempting a rehash of the incident.

@Lemony - lol I like the word you used on "him" god knows that is exactly the way his been acting :P

@Saffie - I dont think it is possible. I am actually considering not going. On the other hand my mother-inlaw thinks I should work on making peace now. *sigh*

Ugh! This is a hard sitchuation, if I were you I would maybe phone him before the show and see where he's at now, that way you can at least know that you tried and your mother in law will be able to see that too

@Lemony - I am hoping there isn't any type of interaction. They can be mean, I wont be able to take any sarcastic insults. I am in better place now, I don't want them disrupting my peace of mind.

Is there anyway you can test the waters before the night? If it's going to be hostile you could always come down with a cold or flu and cancel.

I feel like sharing this with you, Kryptonite.
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* Who can achieve success over mind? Ones who win their mind can do so.
Bests!

Good for you. Stay strong, get busy with your kids and don't give them the opportunity to act like dicks

Your MIL sounds reasonable. You must try traveling lighter on this journey of life.

Has she said if he is willing to work on it?

@Becky - The thought of attending a funeral also bugs me. I mean that would just be painful, not speaking to someone but having to attend their funeral. My mother-inlaw has been supportive with this whole issue. But she feels like there should be some closure to it all now.

@ Saffie- I was willing to discuss things the very next day, Of course I was pissed off but still I was willing to sit down and talk things over rationally. But all he wanted was for me to admit that it was all my fault. He feels like I owe them an apology.

@Becky - my husband is late

Deal with it.if you must it's only a night

And what about your spouse?

Hey Kryptonite