Is 3 hours of reflection on someone who harmed you too much?

fuck them

i guess it depends on the level of harm. did they kill all the villagers or something?

Not if it helps you come to terms with it

Been doing that for years

That's like a drop in a bucket. Take the time you need to get yourself into a better mind space. No one but you can decide when your spending too much time sorting out feelings. It wont be fast or easy but you doing the work is worth it.

It depends on what ...”harmed you to much “ means to you.

I haven’t wasted one second on they guy who harmed/terrorized me

Yes, much more than they deserve...but it never ends up being just 3 hours, does it?

It depends if knives or guns are involved in the reflection! 😳

179 minutes and 59 seconds too long!

Yes...

Even one minute would be

As long as you need.

I agree with @Rambler. You take whatever time you need to make peace with it.