I Am Allergic To Bullshit

Here she goes again,I can already hear that statement loud and clear.Lets not bother reading any further,that woman is full of bitterness,she is not giving herself a break,nor to us for that matter.We have ben told by several "experts" that forgiveness is an instant cure for all feelings of hurt and anger,just "forgive" and all will be well,not being able to "forgive" only shows how you lack strength of character and generosity! BULLSHIT! Please read that article,it is most intelligent and insightful and most generous too.Jesus said "forgive 77 times 7" I am not Jesus ,I am not a saint, I AM A HUMAN BEING and I do not subscribe to spychological trends and widely accepted preconceived bullshit.Lets get real!

https://sometimesmagical.wordpress.com/2013/01/11/forgiveness-is-bullshit/

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shinjorai

I read through the article and ive heard that before and i agree with you that society tries to push the thing on us where we should just accept whatevers happening and forgive everybody when they do wrong. But I think theres some people who dont deserve to be forgiven. I think for forgiveness to truly occur the person who offended the one being hurt needs to be seeking forgiveness and trying to change to start with. If that person is continuing to hurt people and doing the same thing hurting others then yeah definitely they probably dont deserve to be forgiven. I dont know the problem with all this is though if you let it fester too long without a release then it can turn into hate and thats not healthy either.

But i think on the whole its good to have negative emotions because to stamp them out like society would have us believe like theres something wrong with us aint right either.
Heres an article talking about that. http://www.scientificamerican.com/article/negative-emotions-key-well-being/

That movie based on the book The giver, http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0435651/ is about a society where they try to erase all negative emotions and it becomes a horrible way to live, because without negativity there cant be positivity etc, so love doesnt exist.

I think forgiveness is the answer up to a point but god didnt make us machines and we arent perfect like he is and with the seperation thats occured its a fact of this life we have to deal with.

I had somebody the other day piss me off really bad and i cursed them out and it actually felt good to get all that anger out and they were well deserving of it as well. So im no saint myself but i think the main thing is to keep a balance of positive and negative emotion in our lives to be truly healthy.

dubkebab

well put,sir.

berangere · 80-89, F

Thank you for sharing this very good article and I will look for "The giver" at my library.

shinjorai

I havent read the book because i been reading too much other stuff lately but i heard its pretty good. I hope you enjoy it :)

dubkebab

That's a powerful article,I appreciate it very much.
Cicumstances can vary greatly,and there can be occasions when forgiveness is deserved,but yes I admit the truth that"healing isn't about forgiving the other person,it's about listening to ourselves" and of course there are no instant cures where human feelings are concerned-otherwise we could all ride paisley unicorns to ice cream cloud city every Tuesday.

whitesunshine87

Well I have not able to forgive certain people in my life though I think I am expected to.

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berangere · 80-89, F

The same goes for me, with my narcissistic sister who every time I did try to reconciliate myself with her in the past, threw it all back in my face and also did her best to inflict the maximum hurt on me.More often than not,"forgiveness" simply does not work ,but very few people dare say it.

dubkebab

In a way we are giving an abuser more power by forgiving if it's not deserved or respected.They need to own up to their actions and take steps to not add to the bullshit-otherwise you are giving them a free pass to create more havoc.

berangere · 80-89, F

I could not agree more.I believe people hang on to the idea of "forgiveness "for many reasons and none really helping those who were wronged,one main reason being because "Jesus said so" they blindly follow Bible teachings,and also because sadly most people do not have empathy and find it irksome to listen to another person's painful experiences,so the advise to "forgive" becomes a cop out and so adding insult to injury.Some people are plainly misguided,they themselves come from reasonably stable backgrounds and cannot fathom what happens in dysfunctional families,if they had to forgive anything it would be peanuts as to compare.

nelladell

i've never found it helpful when someone is pushed to "forgive." i wish i had somethng that was helpful to say because i care and because i know you deserve the peace i wish for you.

berangere · 80-89, F

Thank you for your kind thoughts.In time painful memories will stop bothering me,it will not matter any more.I think the sadness we feel,the sadness that is so hard to shake off is linked to the fact that we did care and yes, loved the people who betrayed us.When we fully accept that those people were not worth loving we then can let go of the pain.They then will not be more meaningful to us than any other bullies.

nelladell

thank you for being such a dear and loyal friend.

Tannasheart

I am intrigued. Your passion has my attention and respect, as always. Your position on Facebook and the Bible differ from my own. No matter..

berangere · 80-89, F

We are all entitled to our views.Yes I am passionate in pointing out that people who have suffered abuse are the victims and not the perpetrators, but sadly society often make them feel inadequate if they don't forgive and "get over" serious hurts after a given time,sadly society hangs on to too may preconceived beliefs and trends,I am talking about the trend of "positive thinking" in that case and forgiveness as taught in the Bible.

Tannasheart

I see. Thank you for the context.

honjr1

Most people are.

berangere · 80-89, F

Please read the article.

honjr1

I did, and I think most people are tired of Bs. I know that I am.

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