I Am Allergic To Bullshit

Here she goes again,I can already hear that statement loud and clear.Lets not bother reading any further,that woman is full of bitterness,she is not giving herself a break,nor to us for that matter.We have ben told by several "experts" that forgiveness is an instant cure for all feelings of hurt and anger,just "forgive" and all will be well,not being able to "forgive" only shows how you lack strength of character and generosity! BULLSHIT! Please read that article,it is most intelligent and insightful and most generous too.Jesus said "forgive 77 times 7" I am not Jesus ,I am not a saint, I AM A HUMAN BEING and I do not subscribe to spychological trends and widely accepted preconceived bullshit.Lets get real!

https://sometimesmagical.wordpress.com/2013/01/11/forgiveness-is-bullshit/

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whitesunshine87

Well I have not able to forgive certain people in my life though I think I am expected to.

berangere · 80-89, F

Those who "expect" other to forgive,are those who basically do not want to hear what you have to say about your pain,they are simply not interested and it bore them,so telling you to "forgive" gets them off the hook and make them feel self righteous at the same time.

whitesunshine87

Exactly.If I have to forgive,I should be able to do it at my own pace.

berangere · 80-89, F

And if you never can,it is you prerogative,NO ONE has the right nor should ever tell you that you are an "unforgiving" person.

whitesunshine87

And the person concerned has not asked for my forgiveness .She has tried to hurt me in every sort of way.

berangere · 80-89, F

The same goes for me, with my narcissistic sister who every time I did try to reconciliate myself with her in the past, threw it all back in my face and also did her best to inflict the maximum hurt on me.More often than not,"forgiveness" simply does not work ,but very few people dare say it.

dubkebab

In a way we are giving an abuser more power by forgiving if it's not deserved or respected.They need to own up to their actions and take steps to not add to the bullshit-otherwise you are giving them a free pass to create more havoc.

berangere · 80-89, F

I could not agree more.I believe people hang on to the idea of "forgiveness "for many reasons and none really helping those who were wronged,one main reason being because "Jesus said so" they blindly follow Bible teachings,and also because sadly most people do not have empathy and find it irksome to listen to another person's painful experiences,so the advise to "forgive" becomes a cop out and so adding insult to injury.Some people are plainly misguided,they themselves come from reasonably stable backgrounds and cannot fathom what happens in dysfunctional families,if they had to forgive anything it would be peanuts as to compare.