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I have had enough of this man.

I rarely use language like this however, I want to kick this kid right in the balls. This coworker of mine is always making such rude remarks towards me. I can't help but to feel targeted. I have done nothing to this man to make him act how he does towards me. I am over the passive agressiveness, the snapping at me over nothing, and the backhanded comments.

Today I was talking to another coworker about how pain makes you feel ancient. He has sciatica so we were discussing topical treatments for pain. The man in question overhears and says to me you are what 70? 71? pain is normal at that age. The way he said it and that smirk that went along with it made me want to slap him. I never usually want to slap anyone but for him I make an exception.

I have brought up his attitude before and nothing ever changes. I am also not the only one with issues regarding him either. He has been spoken to but in his mind he thinks he is God and has no faults. I know this type. Arrogant I can do no wrong I will never listen to anyone type. He will not take critique constructive or not. That is the heart of the issue.

I can say a lot more and have deduced a lot more about his type but I've said enough. I have aired my grievances and am moving on. I am not allowing him anymore space in my head.

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cherokeepatti · 61-69, F

He’s got a personality disorder to stand there and smirk about someone else’s pain. Clearly he is getting under your skin if you feel like slapping a dog turd out of him, also another sign of a personality disorder.

deepblacknothingness · 56-60, M

@cherokeepatti He is a chameleon and I have noticed he mirrors people especially men. If a rather masculine man is around he will mirror them. How they talk, how they act, interests, trying to "one up" the other. When interacting with women he will completely change around. Speaks in a higher voice and always talks about their nails, shoes, whatever else. Oh girl, omg yes, that type of language.

When a man is interacting with him he will again change everything. Deepens his voice, tries to act like a "bro" and will say sure chief, you got it boss,hey brother etc...

His eyes never change either. Eyes normally change when someone laughs,smiles, is happy or upset etc. His never do. They are blank to me. I cannot read them.

I am also thinking he may have a split type of personality. He will just flip on you and get agressive or angry out of nowhere but then go back like nothing happened. I saw this when I defended myself against one of his flips. He also does not remember doing such things. Another coworker called him out on a different time he flipped and he didn't remember a thing. There are a few other instances of not remembering saying or doing things either.

I may be wrong but this is what I see.

cherokeepatti · 61-69, F

@deepblacknothingness sounds like a narcissist..very insecure and lacking confidence. They are trouble makers and they will never admit to doing something negative that they are accused of…many of them will have “selective amnesia” and others will argue and deflect the conversation back on you. That smirk when he was talking about someone’s pain is another good indicator, they get a kick out of knowing others are hurting and that’s why they will stir up crap so much.

deepblacknothingness · 56-60, M

@cherokeepatti I think you are right on everything. He will turn and twist it all around onto you. Narcissism fits the bill. I remember another story. One day a man came in who looked similar to him. He started up asking another coworker if she thought that guy was cute. She said no. He kept gushing over this man and not a single soul agreed with him. I think because the man looked like him in a way he was upset nobody was showering with agreement and compliments.

cherokeepatti · 61-69, F

@deepblacknothingness yep, they are jealous of anyone who has something they don’t have, even a bit of attention. He is a very insecure individual. They get some kind of energy from causing trouble. It’s best not to give him any attention and to remain stoic even if he makes you want to slap the crap out of him.

deepblacknothingness · 56-60, M

@cherokeepatti Stoic is the right way. He will not get a reaction from me. Even when I defended myself I did not raise my voice or use harsh language. I think that is why he targets me. He knows I can read him like a book and I stand up to him

cherokeepatti · 61-69, F

@deepblacknothingness Good job for your self-control. Continue on. If everyone was stoic around him and he pushes and pushed for a reaction he might get his own ass in trouble when he gets caught.

deepblacknothingness · 56-60, M

@cherokeepatti I hope if nobody gives him what he wants he will give up.

cherokeepatti · 61-69, F

@deepblacknothingness they will find a supply somewhere from someone. They crave it, gives them some type of perverse pleasure and energy.