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I Am A Caregiver To My Spouse

Last night my wife struggled to brush her own teeth. This turned out to be too much for her and she broke down crying for most of the night. This past couple weeks she has had to accept that she can no longer feed herself and needs me to feed her, now she has to ask me to brush her teeth for her. ALS really does suck. 2 years ago she was independent and now the only thing she can eat on her own are small finger foods and she struggles with that. I keep telling her that I am happy to help her with anything she needs and will always be by her side to help always. The loss of her independence is the hardest thing for her, nothing I can do can give that back to her. She is the one with the terrible disease, but this is hard on me too.
I feel your pain my friend, My father has primary progressive MS so i too know the struggles of watching a loved one lose virtually all ability to move or any sense of independence.

Your a good man for sticking it out. Real man you are, most would just cut all ties and run.
TechniCoIorBroccoli · 46-50, F
@Teggy my mum has parkinson and it is soul destroying to see her lose her finger grip balance etc
@TechniCoIorBroccoli it's absolutely devastating knowing that there's pretty much nothing you could possibly do either as a loved one.
gmatthewb · 51-55, M
@Teggy When you really care about someone, you step up, no questions asked.
metalicblack · 46-50, M
Your a good man
ChubsFlannigan · 70-79, M
Yes. In some ways it's tougher on the caregiver. I was my late wife's caregiver for the last 15 years of her life. It wasn't ALS, but a variety of things, with diabetes being the major one. Its difficult to watch someone you love go down hill and suffer and you can do nothing to stop it or make it better. You do what you can, but it's never good enough. Things just keep progressing and life becomes more and more miserable for your loved one. Its hard, very, very hard. But if you truly love the person, it's worth it.
Christina2017 · 41-45, T
I care for my mother the same why you do your wife
I'm so sorry... It is unimaginable how hard it must be to lose all that... I wish you two the best of luck with the ALS.
gmatthewb · 51-55, M
@Crossdress4Life Thank you, wish luck did any good with this disease though
SW-User
I’m so very sorry. I wish I had something wonderful to say...
gmatthewb · 51-55, M
@SW-User Thank you, not much that can be said that will make things any easier.
Bless both of your hearts ☺
Awww... I'm sorry for you both. God is testing you, so always be there for her. Sometimes it's our Karma from the past birth(as per my beliefs).
Be a good husband and you will get your joyful dues when the time comes. 🤗
JoyfulSilence · 46-50, M
Fungirlmmm · 51-55, F
Prayers for you and your wife through her illness.

 
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