I Have No One To Talk Too
I'm very sad.. I'm not alone but no one to talk to about what I feel.. I wanna explode my feelings but I can't cos no one will listen and he won't listen to me....
36-40, F
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bluelonelyheart · 36-40, F
I am pissed off with my hubby I said let's not buy baby sterilizer let's just do the old way sterilizing baby bottles in a big pot with boiling water which ofc the very traditional he said no so many died cos of that I said show me your prove that many died cos of that, I said it's not about what u will use that the child will die its about if you cleaned the baby bottles efficiently.... Cos even u buy electric sterilizer u will still clean the bottles.he can't show any prove that someone died cos of sterilizing in a big pot....pls react on this.... I mean comment your thoughts.... I wanna cry cos I'm sure in the future if my baby get sick due to any reason he would blamed it on me
@bluelonelyheart Boiling water sterilises things just fine.
Maybe come to a compromise, is it so bad if he does buy one?
We may not always agree, but it's obviously not something worth feeling such friction about. If he wants to pay for it then let him, It's not about winning the argument when there's no real "loser" at the end of it.
About the part with him blaming you in the future, this is fictional so far. Why would he say something like this?.
If you let him do this then you show your trust and he couldn't say such a thing as you've let him do this.
Weigh up the pros and cons of this with a clear head and you'll find it funny about how little this really matters.
Maybe come to a compromise, is it so bad if he does buy one?
We may not always agree, but it's obviously not something worth feeling such friction about. If he wants to pay for it then let him, It's not about winning the argument when there's no real "loser" at the end of it.
About the part with him blaming you in the future, this is fictional so far. Why would he say something like this?.
If you let him do this then you show your trust and he couldn't say such a thing as you've let him do this.
Weigh up the pros and cons of this with a clear head and you'll find it funny about how little this really matters.
bluelonelyheart · 36-40, F
@Gh0s1 and I have also issue I can't go to my country now Philippines he said if I'll go wd our child and something happens he would blame me.... He don't allow me to go wd our child. Cos he said it's not safe.... Seems he is the only one that is allowed to decide for our child... I know it's not safe in Manila but it's not as dangerous as he thinks.... I can't visit my country unless my child is already a teenager..
@bluelonelyheart Then you need to have an honest talk with him and tell him that you feel like you aren't being trusted as a mother and it's making you feel lesser about yourself. Tell him it's a two way street and ask how it would make him feel if you were to tell him you didn't trust him to look after his own child.
Don't be stressed/stay collected when you're talking as this is just pure logic and there is nothing to misinterperet. He has to learn how to compromise, tell him how you feel but stay on point.
His anxiety cannot dictate every decision, though tell him you respect that he's only thinking of the child so there's no misunderstanding.
Don't be stressed/stay collected when you're talking as this is just pure logic and there is nothing to misinterperet. He has to learn how to compromise, tell him how you feel but stay on point.
His anxiety cannot dictate every decision, though tell him you respect that he's only thinking of the child so there's no misunderstanding.
bluelonelyheart · 36-40, F
@Outoforbits it's been 2 yrs I'm not able to go home then next year I have a chance already but I won't be able cos he is not allowing me to go wd my child.... He said hire a nanny to take care of the child while he is out of the country for work and I'm in my country. ... I'd rather not go to my country if I will leave my child wd a nanny....
@bluelonelyheart Then like i said, you need to have this discussion as parents. Better to address it now than create a larger rift in the future.
bluelonelyheart · 36-40, F
@Gh0s1 I hope he is the type of guy who listens to me... But no he is not.... Everytime I'm making a serious talk wd him he doesn't take me seriously he would make a joke.... That's why I always feel hurt... Even I say to him something that bothers me it's like I'm just talking to an air... Compared to you, you really listened to me... Thanks for this at least someone heard my voice...
@bluelonelyheart Then this is also something you need to discuss with him, just lay it all out on the table and if you need to press the issue then tell him it's not acceptable for that behaviour when you're in a 2 way relationship, it's in the child's best interest.
Just stay calm, and if he doesn't want to listen you're going to have to tell him he's going to have to, no other way about it.
If he's unwilling to change and is disrespectful then the rest is up to you but be assertive. Like if he walks away and makes a joke then you say "No no no no, this isn't about you, sit down and talk to me" like a mother would to a child almost, so not aggressive but you need to learn to assert yourself. I'm afraid he's going to have to be a responsible person in this case and part of that is listening to the mother of his child.
Just stay calm, and if he doesn't want to listen you're going to have to tell him he's going to have to, no other way about it.
If he's unwilling to change and is disrespectful then the rest is up to you but be assertive. Like if he walks away and makes a joke then you say "No no no no, this isn't about you, sit down and talk to me" like a mother would to a child almost, so not aggressive but you need to learn to assert yourself. I'm afraid he's going to have to be a responsible person in this case and part of that is listening to the mother of his child.